Birth Mom Missions

Thank you for that!! I so needed to hear an A-moms perspective. I too need to reevaluate the neg feelings I have for my son's A-mom. People are human and they DO make mistakes; Especially when fear is involved. I am sure there are things I have done to bother her as well.

/hug

I always set myself up for someone to punch my heart hanging all out there on my sleeve... I think I talk too much about my adoption with strangers who then in turn freaks out on my on how could I ever give my baby away... jerks...
I can usually shrug it off like water off a duck's butt, though every so often after several months I exploded into tears at even the slightest judging..
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but if I'm not open about all of it and suffer the verbal abuse along with it, then how can I change the view of birthmoms? Its gotta start somewhere right? and we are at the front lines of open adoption today..

People say really stupid things when your children are adopted, too. I tell my daughters that some people just don't get it. Both of them know their birth mothers loved them so much that they wanted more for them than they could provide at the time. Ignore the judgmental people. They truly don't get it.

I too wear my heart on my sleeve (I think most birth moms may, because kinda need to be a trusting loving person to consider adoption anyway) Words are not that important, but its the way you say things that change people's opinions (in my experience) I have so many stories where I blurted "Im a birhtmom" out at the wrong time. It took me at least ... See Morea year to get the hang of it. I just am proud of her and want to share, probably like you do. We just have to keep being ourselves, and society will eventually come around to accept birthmoms and let them FINALLY process the grieve. I would just like it if when my daughter is old enough to talk to others about her birthmom, that the majority of public opinion would know we never "gave them away" Disenfranchised grief is when the grief is connected with a loss which cannot be openly acknowledged, publicly mourned or socially supported. I think that has something to do with why we may not know when or how to bring it up in public, and why this goes on longer than usual. Then again, some birthmoms never mention it EVER....so we are all different. I think a good place to aim for is in the middle of the two extremes. Don't let em get ya down.

I LOOOOOVE my BirthMamas!!!
My heroes!!!

Unfortunately, the vaccines and other things we Tonce thought harmless have caused the infertility rate to skyrocket. The 70s - 80s were when most were given. Depopulation: if they can't prevent you from being born, they wil drugg you so you can't do more "harm" to the earth. It's BS (excuse me) I love Babies!