Fathers For Equal Rights

Dallas and Ft. Worth Calenders should look very similar only a day or so difference. The schedule is based on the school district the child lives in.

Ok THX...I have a calendar I'm just too lazy to dig it out...LOL

I feel your pain Lee. Do you live in Texas and have you signed up for Fathers For Equal Rights? There is a ton of information on the homepage as well as access to attorneys who provide Q&A section.

Specifically what type of help are you looking for?

Matt ... Read More

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Fathers For Equal Rights
Total Reviews 55
Money Raised* $61.50

I've spent two or three hours viewing and making reviews, but it's not giving credit. I even made sure it was sponsored reviews. Any idea on if there is a problem on Insider Pages end?

As soon as you click on the review it will tell you how much money it will raise for fathers for equal rights. There are some reviews that will not pay so just check before you write one. If you are the first to review a biz then it gives FER $1.50 if you are the 3rd or 4th it pays .50. More than 4 reviews it gives us nothing. :(

Alex,

I posted this for someone else earlier:

http://www.erff.org/ ... Read More
http://www.equalparentsforchildren.org/
http://www.fathersrightswny.com/other-states.htm

I hope one of these will help you,

Matt

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Kevin,

I would recommend contacting a family law attorney and provide your child's mother's supervisor or division when and if you get to a point of enforcing custody issues. You do have rights, but you will have to take the initiative to enforce them if she does not allow you voluntarily. Seems as though if you are both in the military that she couldn't be too hard to locate.

God Bless, ... Read More

Matt

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I've been looking but I've run into dead ends. If you have any suggestions or would like to help me with this critical project please let me know. The two projects I have right now are the insider pages, which I’ve managed to raise $61.50, and now the Jakes place "Day with Dad" event. Feel free to check into either one of them.

Insider pages:
http://www.insiderpages.com/fundraisers/Fathers-For-Equal-Rights-0911
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Day With Dad:
https://webhost.corecashless.com/amazingjakes/plano/sales/

How about a BBQ? Nothing gets dads moving like a firing up a pit and feeding people a big fat BBQ sandwich. $10 bucks a head or around there. Maybe send out a message to all the members asking for volunteers one of those Trailer Pit usage and possibly get someone to donate the meat.

Anyway, I'd would like to get something like that rolling here in Houston.

Michael,

I can't speak for FFER as I don't know their official affiliations with therapists. I do, however, know that PAS is a huge problem.

I know that there are some online parenting classes that discuss PAS. Unavoidably some ex spouses are going to exercise PAS or else it wouldn't be the problem is it today. From what I have seen the best way to combat PAS is to remain the neutral parent in the middle of it by refraining from doing the same things the ex is. Actions speak for themselves, but those actions MUST BE DOCUMENTED or witnesses to have the profound impact desired. (CustodyXchange.com is a great tool for doing just that) Having said that, filing very specific injunctions will get something on record, but even then the judge will have to be willing to enforce it by way of contempt. From what I've seen this is something judges are hesitant to do because it's viewed as an "act against women" and the political fallout is at risk. Not all judges though. ... Read More

I know I went a little more into this topic than you were asking, but hopefully it will help.

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Yes we do, I encourage you to call either my Dallas or Ft. Worth offices so we can refer you someone.... 214-953-2233, 817-870-4880

Because the system is flawed. Going through the same but now my kids are being neglected I feel like my hands are tied.

Dawn,

I ran a google search and found:

http://www.erff.org/ ... Read More
http://www.equalparentsforchildren.org/
http://www.fathersrightswny.com/other-states.htm

Hope that helps.

Until the playing field is even this child support system is the way it is. I make it a point to just suck it up and stay away from complaining about it, but instead combat it by never missing an opportunity of custody and by being the best father I can be. It seems or appears that once the courts hear a complaint about how unjust the child support system is then that party is the subjected to questioning motivation on any other custody modification issues. Sort of like saying, "You only want to modify custody because you're sick of paying child support.". That's a common response and one that tilts the scale in the opposite. I just pay and make sure that every opportunity presented to make my child's life better is seized. I keep the complaints about child support to myself until the day comes that organizations such as FFER help us overcome or at least progress towards fairness.

God Bless,

Matt

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you can get a "rule 11 agreement" - that's what we did, just to get something down on paper. but, I would get a lawyer either way. my understanding a "rule 11 agreement" is were you both agree on paper and have it signed by a "notary". you then can take that to a judge later after you get the final papers drawn up.

Darrell,

It sounds to me that she figured out that she may have to pay child support if you were to file papers while you had physical custody. This may or may not be true, but the mere threat of it must have spooked her into drastic measures. So she resorts to taking the child and holding the child as "ransom" so to speak. So now she is demanding that something be put in writing releasing her from that child support obligation just to be safe.

It's really sad, but it's a common situation that some ex-spouses try once they realize their actions may be called into question in family court. Take the kid and demand release from any responsibility that the court could impose. ... Read More

She figured out while you had the child that YOU had the same power as she does when it comes to filing papers with the court. I would venture to say that she probably had someone explain this to her and she panicked at the thought of having to pay you child support while you are being the primary caregiver.

Seems to me that if she's willing to give up her option at having you pay child support then the motivation here isn't so much to release you as it is to release herself from that possibility. Always consult your options with a family law attorney, but it sounds like it's a win win for you. I would venture to say that once she gets released from the threat of child support you will have your child and she can breath easy. If that situation works for a long period of time I would make sure you keep good documentation of that fact and consider a change of custody at a later date if she begins to neglect her visits and support of your son.

Don't be passive aggressive in this situation. If you have an agreement, make sure you exercise your visitations to the fullest even if she denies you. Deny is more than her calling and telling you she's not going to allow you to see him. Actually go and knock on the door at the agreed visitation location at the proper time and when or if denied document it in your journal.

I hope you are able to visit you son soon. God Bless,

Matt

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You must bring the case in front of a Judge. It is always best if both parties agree to a visitation schedule but if you do not then it will be up to the court system. You must prepare for your case before you file just to make sure your case is strong. I would suggest you come into the office and have one of our volunteer attorneys hear your case. Good Luck!

Hi James,

Glad to hear you are now close to your son and are going to be able to exercise your visits with him more often. I'm sure you son will be excited.

FFER attorneys are a great resource for helping take those next steps. Family law attorneys should be able to file the proper papers for you in the court of jurisdiction, which is typically wherever the child resides for the last 6 months. Start asking questions to the right people and I'm sure you will get the ball rolling. ... Read More

Give us an update on how it goes.

God Bless,

Matt

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