The Unnecesarean

I will blog about it in the next week. Thanks for bringing it to my attention, Kristina.

Thank you so much, Jill!

I just want to say ... that in the midst of it all there is much joy, love, and resourcing for the babies. The good news is that mother and baby can be supported after wards, if not in the experience, to process their experience, to heal .. by integrating it. I hope you'll be able to read the story my client wrote about their experience. There are people who work similar to mine all over the world ... it just takes the willingness to sit on the edge of the pain, NOT go into it and re-experience it, but to sit on the edge of it and transform it. It requires mother and father or whoever to also sit with baby as baby processes his or her experience of same situation ... it's not always the same. It requires learning about how the brain imprints, records/programs the brain according to experiences of environment and seeing how it impacted the baby and how to FOLLOW YOUR BABY's expression ... not follow the books ... but to follow YOUR intuition, to process your own feelings .... so that you engage with YOUR baby ... who is who s/he, i part, because of his/her experiences. It's profound work and experience .... here's the link.

Story of Elijah's birth, surgery, and healing with CranioSacral-based Integrative Attachment Therapy
http://www.facebook.com/babykeeper?v=app_2347471856&ref=name
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It should be mandatory for cesarean born baby and families .. and everyone. In my experience it is the women who gave birth surgically and homebirth women who come to me .... because cs births are so traumatic they are searching for anything to help, and homebirth women are not traumatized, experienced a much more gentle, undisturbed birth and are able to see the subtlest of needs of the baby and to recognize the things in their birth that were a disruption. Midwifery and homebirths are zero without disruption but are just not as brutal. Without drugs women are better able to feel them and address them. Babies with cord wraps, suctioning, early cord clamping, caregiver issues that created any feelings of distrust, fear, abandonment, lack of choice, for mother etc,and any baby who did not get to do "self-attachment" breast crawl can benefit from and should have an integrative healing session or two or more. Sadly, it is not recognized by the medical and insurance establishment and not covered by insurance unless you find a practitioner working under the radar of another professional license. If so, it changes the dynamic some ... and, the issue now is that usually people have to pay out of pocket. It's more critical than having the most recent baby equipment -- pumps, mobys, strollers, etc. I'd like to see the primal period of life and supporting gentle birth and trauma healing a normal part of the process. For the millions of people who didn't have the birth they wish, it's the next best thing ... we can heal and be stronger where we healed.

I can relate ♥ I had a rough nicu expierence (6weeks) with my first due to birth trauma, and had to fight for a lot of the natural mommy bonding stuff. With my second baby I was given the "choice" between a c/sec or early induction. We induced at 37 1/2 weeks and thankfully all went well, but it would have been a nightmare to have had to deal with... See More the nicu again and for unnessary complications. I'm 32 weeks pregnant now and much more confident with my options and desions, but still the fear of what ifs haunt me.

Ugh. Heather, I'm so sorry about that. No one should ever be bullied into a cesarean. :(

Its amazing to me that there are Vbac bans. The rate of complications and even death are SO much higher with C section than Vbac. I will attempt my second Vbac in January and am VERY thankful for the option.

No way! Darn. She'd still be a good contact for that area, I think.

Okay! I also asked her if she talked to them about a water birth at the hospital with one of the mdiwives. My friend is really interested in a water birth and hydrotherapy for labor relief, but she keeps getting told conflicting things about the use of tubs in the hospitals by the various hospital staff. I will tell her to talk to Tiffany.

Michelle, no need at all to apologize! Sometimes c/s at 37-ish weeks are medically indicated (obviously) and clotting disorders are nothing to mess around with. Since we don't know all the details about this woman, all input and experience are helpful.

well i hope she keeps us all posted

Thanks everyone for the great info,I'm going to do some research and see what turns up. I'm in the Fairbanks area but I'm very willing to travel so any options in AK or other states are helpfull :)

this is good to know. when i have my next child i very well may be living in Anchorage, and i want to VBAC.

Hi Jessica,

I put your request on the page so everyone will be sure to see it. I want to make sure that you don't miss it. :)

Jill

Thank you Jill =) I appreciate it

this is definately a good example of the differences between reading a birth story by someone who has done all the homework and knows ahead of time what they should/should not do to help facilitate a natural birth, and someone who is just following doctor's orders. I almost feel sorry because this woman, while admiting a lot of it wasn't want she ... See Morewanted, considers this a good birth. Totally sounds like between the induction, the pit, and the EFM (and taking away the birth ball and making her lie on her back in bed) those doctor's were doing everything they could to avoid her having a VBAC without just telling her she couldn't have one.

It's kinda funny in a sad sort of way that I have /liked/ all my OBs, but I have never /trusted/ them. They just don't really seem to care about me and my babies as /people/ rather than /patients/ to move through the line. If we have another baby, I hope to birth with a midwife. If I can't find one in my area, I may just /accidentally/ deliver at home.

I have to say I am grateful as hell for the vacuum with my son. Because of the doctor's actions I freaked out and pushed my body beyond its limits trying to get my son out before she could do anything to me. I hit the wall of what I could do and my posterior boy was stuck but good, and I couldn't move him any further, I was done, too weak, too ... See Morescared, too stressed. He required very little from her to get out, he was pretty close, but I just could not do anymore on my own. So, you know, hates her, hates what she did to me, am grateful he made it out despite all of it. Wouldn't it be nice if it hadn't been *needed* in the first place?

I just want to add for the mother the post is for... that in the midst of it all there is much joy, love, and resourcing for the babies. The good news is that mother and baby can be supported after wards, if not in the experience, to process their experience, to heal .. by integrating it. I hope you'll be able to read the story my client wrote about their experience. There are people who work similar to mine all over the world ... it just takes the willingness to sit on the edge of the pain, NOT go into it and re-experience it, but to sit on the edge of it and transform it. It requires mother and father or whoever to also sit with baby as baby processes his or her experience of same situation ... it's not always the same. It requires learning about how the brain imprints, records/programs the brain according to experiences of environment and seeing how it impacted the baby and how to FOLLOW YOUR BABY's expression ... not follow the books ... but to follow YOUR intuition, to process your own feelings .... so that you engage with YOUR baby ... who is who s/he, i part, because of his/her experiences. It's profound work and experience .... here's the link.

Story of Elijah's birth, surgery, and healing with CranioSacral-based Integrative Attachment Therapy
http://www.facebook.com/babykeeper?v=app_2347471856&ref=name
... See More
For eveyone:
It should be mandatory for cesarean born baby and families .. and everyone. In my experience it is the women who gave birth surgically and homebirth women who come to me .... because cs births are so traumatic they are searching for anything to help, and homebirth women are not traumatized, experienced a much more gentle, undisturbed birth and are able to see the subtlest of needs of the baby and to recognize the things in their birth that were a disruption. Midwifery and homebirths are zero without disruption but are just not as brutal. Without drugs women are better able to feel them and address them. Babies with cord wraps, suctioning, early cord clamping, caregiver issues that created any feelings of distrust, fear, abandonment, lack of choice, for mother etc,and any baby who did not get to do "self-attachment" breast crawl can benefit from and should have an integrative healing session or two or more. Sadly, it is not recognized by the medical and insurance establishment and not covered by insurance unless you find a practitioner working under the radar of another professional license. If so, it changes the dynamic some ... and, the issue now is that usually people have to pay out of pocket. It's more critical than having the most recent baby equipment -- pumps, mobys, strollers, etc. I'd like to see the primal period of life and supporting gentle birth and trauma healing a normal part of the process. For the millions of people who didn't have the birth they wish, it's the next best thing ... we can heal and be stronger where we healed.