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Don’t tell me the sky’s the limit, when there are footprints on the moon!
By Elisabeth Fayt, Owner of RnR Wellness Spas

Decades ago, when I was working as an Executive Secretary at the Tim Hortons Corporate Office, the Owner/Founder, Ron Joyce asked me to be his Personal Assistant and travel the world on his private jet, managing his global business affairs. The Canada-wide company was full of competent secretaries at the time, and so I was awed and grateful to have been ch...osen for this newly created position, which he confided in me later, was because I “made things happen”. Well, I’m not sure if I’ve always been that way, but I definitely am now, and as I run my own business affairs, I realize the importance of surrounding myself with others of the same mindset.

My Spa Director is a great example. I recently gave her a task that was beyond my own capacity to accomplish. I didn’t tell her that. I just asked her to handle it, and fluffed it off as though it should be easy, so get on with it already. Well, it wasn’t an easy task, and I knew it, but after a month, she successfully managed to bring the project to completion, beyond my expectation. When I applauded her for it and shared with her my secret that I knew the task’s monstrosity, she simply laughed and said with a dare, “Don’t tell me I can’t do something….” My husband is the same way, and often jokes, saying “If you ask me to put a man on the moon, I’ll ask ‘when’?”

We’ve all heard the saying, “If you want something done, give it to a busy person.” I used to believe that, but not anymore. I’ve witnessed some “busy” people, who are always restless, spinning their wheels, not always accomplishing what they set to accomplish. Rather, the saying goes for me, “If you want something done, give it to a person who makes things happen.”
I have truly found that environment is stronger than willpower. We become like the people around us. If you want to be successful, surround yourself with motivated people who inspire you to do the extraordinary. And if you don’t have that kind of environment at the moment, then YOU be the example, and start the wave. You never know, you may get asked to travel the world on a private jet.

In the meantime, here are a few inspiring quotes and thoughts to get you started;

Start by doing the necessary, then the possible…and suddenly you are doing the impossible! St. Francis of Assisi

When you dream, anything is possible. When you are convinced, it becomes inevitable. Elisabeth Fayt, Paving It Forward

Believe you can, and you’re halfway there. Theodore Roosevelt

Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as you ever can. John Wesley

Don’t tell me the sky’s the limit, when there are footprints on the moon! Paul Brandt

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Get out on a limb, that’s where the fruit is.
by Elisabeth Fayt
It always amazes me that no matter how wise I think I become, the learning never stops. I recently accompanied my 10-year old son to a motivational seminar at the Glencoe Club where he sat among his figure-skating peers listening to an inspirational outpouring from Elvis Stojko’s Olympic coach. The talk was on Mental Toughness, something I obviously needed to hear, or I wouldn’t have been there.
He started off w...

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The Moody Blues
by Elisabeth Fayt
For some, the holidays are a time when everything sparkles. Happiness is in the air, and there’s the anticipation of quality family time just around the corner. For others, the holidays are a time of loneliness and despair, spiraling them into a mood seemingly beyond return.
Whether you are happy or not this time of year, let’s face it, moods affect all of us at one time or another, so let’s learn how to combat them...!
I used to be moody. It wouldn’t take much for someone to push my buttons. I was never nasty or outwardly argumentative, but I could easily sink into quietness while I seethingly pondered how someone could be so insensitive!
This is so common. It’s called touchiness or over-sensitivity, and is a form of self-pity that causes much unnecessary pain.
I used to think that to combat my moods, I had to change how I “reacted” when my buttons were pushed. I found that quite difficult to do. Then I realized it went beyond that. The goal was to remove the buttons altogether.
Believe me, I know, that in the heat of the moment, this isn’t always easy to do, so you have to commit to yourself ahead of time that the next time you find yourself in a mood, you will overcome it!
Most people are unaware when they’ve slipped into a mood. Let’s describe it. Someone criticizes you and you feel yourself getting defensive. That’s a mood. Your least favorite person walks in the room and you immediately feel irritated. Another mood. You’re in the car and the guy in front of you isn’t moving! Total mood. You get the picture. Sometimes we shift through the day from mood to mood. It’s so unhealthy.
The first step is to become aware of what’s happening. Our knee-jerk reaction is often to correct the situation by trying to change the other person or to re-arrange things so that everything is the way we want it. Usually, this causes more trouble.
If something bothers you, it’s a trigger. Immediately introspect: “Why does this bother me? What desire do I have that isn’t being met?” If you’re spiritually inclined, this is also the time to pray for help in overcoming the mood. We sometimes forget to do this. You’ll find amazing results if you’re sincere.
Another nugget, try this affirmation: “Change no circumstance in my life, change me.” Truly mean it. Put the behavior of the other person completely out of your mind and say to yourself: “How should I behave?” then put all your attention there.
You can combat moods in this way. I have proven so in my own life.
Wishing you all a very happy holiday season!

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Living In A Man’s World
by Elisabeth Fayt

Call off the search party. Lower your weapons. I found the secret to living and working in a man’s world.
One thing I look forward to each summer is the annual Book Fair in this little lake town where I spend my summer vacation. They cram the local hall full of used books of all kinds, all at the amazing price of 25 cents each, so I always manage to fill about 2 boxes. I figure, if I get just one good life-changing quote, I’ve gott...en my money’s worth. And there it was, a self-help book for women on “How to Thrive in a Man’s Environment”. Bingo, I found my quote, with pointed advice for women on how men want them to communicate in 9 words or less: “Spare me the pain, just give me the baby.”
In my industry, I work predominantly with women, although I could’ve used this advice all along my career path, and in life in general, so better late than never. The message is loud and clear. Men just want the facts, Jack. The problem is, as women, we love to do this seductive pole dance around the punch line, keeping our listener unwillingly captive with every detail before we get to the point, if we ever get there. For us, it’s the dance. And that is our point.
Shocker, ladies, this drives our men crazy!
Let’s face it, men and women are different creatures. Some authors (like John Gray) even claim we come from different planets (Mars and Venus). The good news is, we weren’t designed to drive each other crazy. What I’ve learned spiritually is that our goal is to find a balance between our two natures. For men, it means loosening up the grip on “reason” long enough to feel, and for women it means getting off the emotional train ride long enough to reason things out. It’s a delicate balance between heart and head. It can be done, and we grow spiritually the more we’re able to manage and balance the two. We do it with the help of our bosses, partners and friends, so bring on those relationships that push our buttons and take us to the next level.
By the way, I wish I could remember the book where I got that quote from, but unfortunately it didn’t make it into my collection. In the meantime, for a humorous spin on the subject, you can always try Steve Harvey’s ”Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man”. It’s full of good tips. And that’s a fact.

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Life Lessons from my Father
by Elisabeth Fayt

My father passed away five years ago, leaving me with profound advice to last a lifetime.
My father was very active in my business, always helping out wherever needed. One day we drove home together and for the entire journey I engaged in a hands-free phone call (business conversation) which ended just as we arrived. As I dropped him off, he said to me “Elisabeth, you are far too busy.” I laughed it off, t...hinking of course it was my dad’s way of telling me he was proud of me.
A week later, he was gone.
The longing for that time in the car again with his undivided attention left me in a state of deep introspection. I found myself asking 3 questions continuously: What is the point of my life? Why am I doing what I do? And who’s it all for? As the months went on, I kept getting different answers. I finally came to a conclusion far different than expected. I realized it simply didn’t matter. Instead, the message was this:
The most important person is the one in front of you, and the most important task is the one you are doing.
From the moment of this epiphany came a change of life. I became fully present, almost instantly; present to the one in front of me; and present to the task at hand. I became a better wife, mother and friend. My business began to flourish without effort. My intuition became heightened. I made better decisions, and less mistakes. I significantly altered what I deemed important.
I do not wish this harsh lesson upon anyone, so learn it from me. “Be here now. Be somewhere else later.” The person in front of you needs your undivided attention. Only you can give that.

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Mom in the Fast Lane
How often must something happen, before it occurs to you?
A few years ago, I was in a mall running errands with my son who was four at the time, and I remember this day vividly as it significantly changed my life. I had looked at my watch to find out I was running quite late and needed to be back at the Spa for an interview within half an hour. There was no way I would make it there at the pace we were going, so I decided to play a little game with my son.... I said, “Hey, Adrian, let’s have a race and see who can run the fastest” and we both started to run. After about 10 seconds, he stopped dead in his tracks, looked up at me quizzically and said “Mom, why are we racing?”
It was like the whole planet stopped whirling in space at that one moment in time. I bent down to his eye level and after a few moments of silence, I responded “Good question, we’re not going to race anymore.” Without another word, we casually strolled through the mall and made our way back to the car. Needless to say, I arrived a half hour late for my interview, but it was irrelevant, as my interviewee had also been running late due to a transit delay. She had not even arrived yet! Life lessons from a four-year-old!
What I realized that day, was that my son taught me a lesson far more profound than I realized at first. What came to light was that I had been sporting a pattern of rushing, of racing the clock and packing an extraordinary number of commitments into a small space of time and it clearly wasn’t serving me well.
How often did this happen, before it occurred to me? I’d hate to count, but it definitely occurred to me that day, and from that day forward, I changed my outlook completely. I began taking the time to show up early for things. I think in my mind I had always felt the slight panic of “What if I get there too early?” I couldn’t bear the thought of wasted time! And that’s the thought many people have, which is why they time things right down to the last minute, without factoring in those unexpected delays, which inevitably happen, by the way.
As May is the month we celebrate Moms, this is a call-out to all Moms living in the fast lane. Slow down and take time to enjoy everything you do, from the important to the mundane. Be present with your children. Bend down to their eye level and give them your full attention. The whole planet will stop whirling in space for you. You won’t miss anything. Trust me, I know from experience.
Elisabeth Fayt, Owner of RnR Wellness THE SPA

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Life Lessons from my Father
by Elisabeth Fayt
My father passed away five years ago, and little did I know before he left this world, he would leave me with profound advice that would last a lifetime.
My father was very active in my Spa. He would often be seen folding robes, fixing things or just helping out wherever needed. One day we were leaving together so I offered him a ride home. As soon as we got into the car, I received a hands-free phone call... and proceeded to hold (what I thought to be at the time) a very important business conversation, which ended just as we arrived at our destination. As I dropped him off, he looked me straight into the eyes and said “Elisabeth, you are far too busy.” I laughed it off, thinking of course it was my dad’s way of telling me he was proud of me.
A week later, he was gone.
The longing for that time in the car again with his undivided attention left me in a state of deep introspection. I found myself asking 3 questions: What is the point of my life? Why am I doing what I do? And who’s it all for? I continued asking these questions, and as the months went on, I kept getting different answers. I finally came to a conclusion far different than expected. I realized it simply didn’t matter. Instead, the message was this:
The most important person is the one in front of you, and the most important task is the one you are doing.
From the moment of this epiphany came a change of life that I will do my best to describe here. To be frank, I became fully present, almost instantly; present to the one in front of me; and present to the task at hand. I became a better wife, mother and friend. My business began to flourish without effort. My intuition became heightened. I made better decisions, and less mistakes. I significantly altered what I deemed important.
The price I paid for this golden nugget, I do not wish upon anyone. I had to lose something dear to me to gain what was rightfully mine, a life of mindfulness. I share this experience so that others may learn from it. You have no idea what you miss right in front of you, when your focus is on something else. I saw a bumper sticker that reminds me of this great lesson: “Be here now. Be somewhere else later.” Take heed, because the person in front of you needs your undivided attention. Only you can give that.

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For most women, their mother is their mirror. I laugh when I hear someone joke "I have become my mother!" I've been tempted to say it myself! The key is to look into that mirror with understanding, love, gratitude and compassion! You have no idea what challenges she has faced, nor the sacrifices she silently made out of love for you. Honor her, love her, be grateful for her.

Pre-pave: We greet each other with respect.
It is okay to be relaxed with our loved ones, but we must never allow familiarity to replace respect. Be the best you can for your partner. As you resonate your best, you will change the dynamic of your relationship.

How are you making a positive change this Earth Day?

Change those everyday thoughts to positive pre-paves!

1. I’m so tired, just a few more minutes, I need more sleep.
2. OMG, I have so much to do today, I’m so busy.
3. I don’t feel like going to work today....
To
1. Something wonderful is going to happen today!
2. I have all the time in the world to accomplish what I need to today.
3. I work with passion and I’m valued for what I do.

All day you are intending, and what you intend, you create.

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Today I will shake up the world if I have to. This pre-pave is about perseverance. No matter what the Universe is giving you at this moment in time, if you keep pursuing what you want, you will be the last one standing!

Pre-Pave: It's not a job it's a way of life.

If you approach your job as a way of life, you enjoy the journey. Enjoy what you do as a way of life and you will reap happiness and success!

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Pre-paving is consciously choosing how you want to look, live and feel through every part of your day. A pre-pave is a statement or command that you think, say or write that describes what you want. Your command becomes you Intention. The moment you pre-pave a desire the Universe begins to "line up the energy" to make it happen for you.

Spend some time today in silence. Even if it just means turning off the radio in the car, or turning off the television at home for a while. In order to discover yourself and what you want out of life, you must be prepared to spend some time quieting the outside noise. Go further to quiet the mind by sitting in silence and focusing on the breath. Mindful breathing calms the mind, bringing clarity and understanding