Kudos to Roseanne for being the first network TV show to depict an openly gender creative child. Although the article does conflate the terms nonbinary and gender creative, at least it is a step in the right direction for visibility and acceptance!
As someone that has identified as bisexual for about 25 years, I've always wondered why sexual orientation is still defined solely on the basis of gender. There is such diversity of gender identity and gender expression, the notion that everyone must selectively pick a label only for what genders they find attractive -- to the wholesale exclusion of ALL other personal qualities -- is confounding, to say the least.
Memes on trans pages routinely assert that nobody can know if ...someone is transgender without asking. Similarly, it's unreasonable to assume whether someone is male or female only by observation. That would be cissexist. For this reason, a strong argument could be made that defining sexual orientation exclusively in terms of gender is in fact transphobic (after all, there are nonbinary and genderqueer people for whom the notion of "gender" may not apply).
People should have the right to define their sexuality on their own terms. Gay, lesbian, and straight are all valid sexual identities. But the notion that all people must adhere to that same restrictive convention is yet another means of policing identities and inducing conformity with societal conventions. And that is the antithesis of sexual liberation.
I would really like to see a new definition of sexual orientation that is no longer contingent on gender -- but instead empowers people to describe their sexual and romantic attractions in terms that are truly meaningful to them -- rather than a limited subset of descriptors that have received the stamp of approval from society-at-large, the LGBTQ community, and Tumblr keyboard warriors.
"You are normal and your experience is valid. Embrace every aspect of who you are — because that's what makes you so amazing." ✨
This calendar was shared by ItGetsBetterProject on Tumblr. However, even with 30 days to pick from in June, there is sadly nothing for gender nonconforming and gender creative folks. We are routinely mentioned in statistics when it is convenient to boost numbers, but then altogether forgotten when it comes to celebrating our diverse community. Let's aim to get a "Gender Creative Pride Day" added to this calendar for next year!
The timing of this story couldn't be better since the fourth annual International Freedressing Awareness Day was on December 3, 2017! Thank you Pink for supporting gender diversity.
Eddie Izzard has recently come out as transgender, expressing a fluid gender identity between male and female.
Eddie came out as transgender
We can't keep silent after tragedies like this. Every life lost to suicide is one life too many. The trauma caused by intentional and repeated dead-naming is very real, and no transgender or gender creative child should ever have to endure this type of psychological abuse particularly within an institution such as a school or hospital.
so sad 💔
Some of the comments are scary. This is why we still need to campaign for gender creative youth. It's not just about "gender expression". It's about shifting cultural attitudes so that children don't have to fear for their very life and safety -- because they don't uphold a socially constructed ideal of masculinity or femininity?
We should end sexist dress codes, but we should also acknowledge that most of these double standards are rooted in popular culture itself. Let's start by addressing the mainstream media (music, movies, magazines, and advertising), fashion, and sports which perpetuate these hegemonic ideals by routinely objectifying and sexualizing women -- and all for financial gain. School dress codes are not responsible for sexism; that is a by-product of a much greater societal problem of which girls and women and boys and men are all active participants by engaging and supporting an overtly-commercialized view of femininity.
There are many double standards when it comes to gender, and some are more common than others. Do you recognize any of these?
Some of these are great
What people seem to forget is just because you add more letters, doesn't mean that people are being inclusive of everyone. Heck, I've met transphobic gay men that use the LGBT initialism only because it's de facto. Reciting an endless string of letters is not the same as showing genuine support and acceptance. It's a token gesture at best.
Add to the fact, that is not the accepted definition of bisexuality. Why is a video educating people about our community perpetuating the myth that bisexual people are transphobic? What is this nonsense?
If a 10-year old girl walks along the beach with her parents in a bikini swimsuit, nobody thinks anything of it. She is viewed as adorable and innocent. But if a 10-year old boy walks onto the subway with his parents adorning a full-length dress, then onlookers glare and stare, there are mumblings of "gay" and "fag" and someone is bound to call child protective services to report child abuse. Welcome to 'Merica.
"Pretty awesome, tho I think the caption should have read "Allow genderqueer star Jacob Tobia to explain what being gender nonconforming really means to them", since you know, we're all different people." --Genderfluid Rocks
"You either be physical and play sports with the boys, or play on the jungle gym with the girls. I wanted it all. I would not settle for any rules about my gend...er because I was like, I wanna go in the woods, play with bugs, dig out some clay from the creek bed, make my mom a cute little pot for her flowers, fight with sticks for a little while, get cleaned up, put on a tutu, dance around my house to Britney Spears, and then go to bed. "
Allow Genderqueer star Jacob Tobia to explain what being gender-nonconforming really means.
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