Jared DeFife, PhD - Atlanta PsychotherapyPsychologist in Atlanta, Georgia
“By focusing on mentalization as a skill, therapists help clients understand more of the connection between how they feel, what they want, and how they act by themselves or with others...”
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, Anxiety is the most common mental health disorder in the U.S. This week, my vlog explores the ways we may ...not even know we are adding anxiety to our kids’ lives. I’m guilty of most of them....! Check it out and share in the comments how you cope with anxiety in you or your kids.
Dr. Jonice Webb tells us that “when your childhood messages go beyond ‘your feelings don’t matter’ to ‘your feelings are bad’, you are not only forced to push your feelings to the other side of the wall, you also learn to despise them. Since your feelings are the most deeply personal expression of who you are, you are indeed learning to hate yourself.”
Creative People and Intensity
One quality that makes many actors, musicians, even some life coaches, so engaging is their intensity.
Jodie Foster once commented... about actor Russell Crowe, “He has that glacier intensity. He is truly intense.”
Psychotherapist Belinda Seiger comments “People have different tolerance levels for intense people...there are many who find them annoying, ‘know-it-alls,’ or ‘just too much.’
“Others fully enjoy the experience of such enthusiastic, creative and emotional people and seek them out as reflection of themselves.”
Follow link to article: "Creative People, Gifted People, and Intensity" http://highability.org/598/mindful-intensity/
‘ST combines aspects of cognitive, behavioural, psychodynamic, attachment and gestalt models, and considers itself to be a truly integrative mo...del, and one that continues to evolve as its use internationally is growing. Theoretical integration aspires to more than a simple combination of techniques as it seeks to create an emergent theory that is more than a sum of its parts (Norcross, 1997). Cognitive and behavioural techniques are still considered core aspects of treatment, but the model gives equal weight to emotion-focused work, experiential techniques and the therapeutic relationship. Like CBT, it is structured, systematic and specific, following a sequence of assessment and treatment procedures. However, the pace and emphasis on particular aspects of treatment may vary depending upon individual need.’
“Feeling our feelings is not easy. It’s much easier to dismiss them or to reach for a quick fix. But when we do, we’re only dismissing ourselves. We’re only stopping ourselves from learning and growing. Honor your feelings.”
It's hard to love ourselves sometimes, especially when the people around us make us feel like we don't live up to their expectations. we put so much effort into... being who we think they want us to be that we forget who we actually are. Take some time to get to know yourself. You may find that you actually like yourself, just the way you are and you may also find that those around you like who you really are too.
Because the holidays are here, and you might want to start practicing now...
“I try to remember to make sure my daughter knows that it’s OK that she feels deeply...”
"It's not embarrassing to me when she throw tantrums in the grocery store, or screams on a plane."
“People diagnosed with ADHD later on in life, like I was, wear the scars of a lifetime of judgement from failures you could never explain. It’s genuinely trauma...tic. It is big things like struggling through university and failing to have a career that matches your potential. And it is little things like forgetting birthdays and people’s names and all seven items on the grocery list to bring back from the shops.”