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I've heard several stories to this end- getting sperm from the "wrong" man. The age-old process of dating, committing to, and marrying the father of your children exists for a reason. Namely, to ensure that the father of your children... is actually the father of your children. Anonymous "fathering" is flawed from the beginning- children long to be known and loved by the two people responsible for their existence.
So sorry for the children in this scenario- including the ...doctor's son that he raised who is also impacted by his deception.
"When the first two half-sisters matched up, and discovered there were nine siblings fathered by the same man, rather than the maximum of three patients were led to believe donors were allowed to father, they got suspicious.
They then discovered a genetic link to Doug Cline, the doctor's son.
Doug Cline told the half-sisters over Facebook that his father had admitted using his own sperm.
Then, in an in-person meeting, the doctor told the two women he had felt pressured at the time to do so because he didn't always have access to fresh sperm.
He felt he was helping out because the women really wanted babies, he told them, according to court documents."
Read this. When you do, you will know more about this issue than any “gender therapist” or trans activist. It is all the information that one mom who is fighting to keep her daughter physically and medically whole has uncovered about the transgender movement and the harm it inflicts on children:
“Quite an industry has built up around the treatment of transgender people. In 2007, there was one transgender clinic that served children in the United States; now there are 40 . Tra...nsgender people who medically transition become permanent medical patients. To maintain their transitions, they must take hormones and have regular blood tests for the rest of their lives. Puberty blockers, hormone treatments, blood tests, genital electrolysis, facial electrolysis, laser body hair reduction, breast augmentation, facial feminization surgery, orchiectomies, vaginoplasties, colovaginoplasties, metoidioplasties, phalloplasties, and double mastectomies are some of the expensive treatments that may be pursued by transgender people.
Additional treatments may be needed to address complications resulting from medical transition treatments. The Truth About Transition Tumblr blog has compiled posts by female to male transitioners who have experienced difficulties. One trans man posts a video about multiple doctor visits he made recently to correct his testosterone levels and stop bleeding, leading him to 1) increase his testosterone dosage, 2) start taking progesterone, and 3) to go on Lupron, usually used as a puberty blocker. Another young trans man expresses his weariness anticipating his 20th transition-related surgery. The latest surgery is a third attempt to treat an abscess that developed during his surgical pursuit of a penis.”
Here's the short answer: No.
BUT, those who are CINOs (Christian In Name Only) are the most likely to be abusive. Keep your eyes out, Christian friends. "Headship" means servant leadership. Confront any man who gets this wrong. God made marriage to be a protection for women, not a prison.
On the flip side, those who attend church regularly are not only safer in their relationships, they are more happy overall:
..."I found that women married to churchgoing evangelical men—compared to women married to men in other major religious traditions or women married to unaffiliated men—report the highest levels of happiness. Their self-reports were based on two markers: “love and affection you get from your spouse” and “understanding you receive from your spouse.” This same demographic of women also report the highest levels of quality couple time... In the National Survey of Families and Households, husbands and wives were both asked if their arguments had gotten physical in the last year, and, if so, if they or their partner had “become physically violent.” By these measures, churchgoing evangelical Protestant husbands were the least likely to be engaged in abusive behavior."
From Robert P. George, the man who has no idea that he's mentoring me:
"I have a radical idea–a kind of dream.
Let’s re-re-define marriage as the conjugal union of husband and wife–the unique form of relationship that is ordered to and would naturally be fulfilled by the coming to be and rearing of children together. Let’s regard the social role of marriage as uniting a man and woman as husband and wife to be father and mother to any children born of their union, thus confer...ring upon those children the inestimable blessing of being brought up in the committed love of the two people whose becoming one in an act of marital communion gave them the gift of life, and further providing those children with the benefit of both paternal and maternal examples, influences, and care.
Now here comes the really radical part. Let’s view sex as having its meaning and significance in expressing in the most intimate and profound way the conjugal love and commitment of the spouses. Let’s understand it as uniting them as one-flesh in a uniquely comprehensive sharing of life–a sharing at all levels of their being as human persons, the biological, the affective, the rational-volitional and spiritual. Let’s regard marital love and commitment as the very principle of sexual morality, the normative basis for distinguishing upright from unworthy sexual conduct. Let’s embrace a set of virtues that guard us against objectifying others (and indeed ourselves) and treating human beings (others or ourselves) as mere means of gratification.
Let’s respect each other’s inherent worth and human dignity by honoring each other in all aspects of our being, including its sexual dimension, and never treating sex as a way of asserting, expressing, or exercising power over others. Let’s not deceive ourselves into supposing that virtue in the sexual dimension of our lives is merely a matter of gaining consent from an object of our desires to use him or her to satisfy our lust. Let us not reduce ourselves to seducers or sirens.
Sex has become depersonalized in our culture and in cultures like ours–and the carnage of the sexual revolution that we now see all around us is the appalling testament to that fact. Let’s re-personalize it."
Divorce is not a one-time event for kids. It's the first of many transitions and adjustments where kids must accommodate the desires of not only their mom and dad, but of new unrelated adults as well:
"Navigating a divorced family was and is like walking through a field of landmines. I was supposed to call my stepdad Dad but by his first name when I was with my real dad. I also certainly was not to ever refer to my biological dad as my real dad in front of my stepdad — I me...an Dad.
My dad (real, not step) also remarried a woman I was not supposed to talk about in front of my mom. My stepdad wanted me to call his parents Grandma and Grandpa, but they told me not to “because they were never really going to be my grandparents.” I have step- and half-siblings who are allowed to call my dad’s (step, not real) parents Grandma and Grandpa because they are biological family. My step-siblings call my mom by her first name and call me their stepsister, but I was always expected to introduce them as my just my brothers and sisters. My half-siblings don’t want to hear anything about my real dad and my parents’ divorce.
Confused? So was I. I have a hard time keeping it all straight even now. As a child, I felt like I couldn’t explain to my friends who my family was because all of the titles and names were offensive to someone. Before I had even finished half of elementary school, the man called Dad living in my home had become a different person, and a different woman was living with my dad.
When I was a child, anxiety loomed over visits with my dad. Both of my parents always loved me, but to have excitement to visit my dad was a judgment against my life with my mom, and to be happy to return home after a visit with dad was an indictment against him. Either way, I caused a parent grief. I was torn in two and couldn’t tell anyone how I felt. I coped by pretending whichever parent wasn’t present at the time didn’t exist."
When your conservative Christian guy friend and your radical feminist friend both share the same article, you know it’s worth the read:
“Remember me when your elderly mother, who has lost her mind to dementia, goes into a care home and is told that her carer, Susan, is a woman, because you asked that she only be cared for by women. And even in her addled state of mind, she knows that Susan is a man, and you know Susan is a man, but you cannot object, and she has to allow Susa...n to perform her intimate care, because to object would be hate speech.
Remember me when your daughter comes home from school crying, the daughter who has spent the last five years training to be the best athlete in her class, her school, her district, she’s crying because Lucas in her class, one of the fastest boys, has decided he identifies as female for now and so is allowed to run in her race, and she knows it doesn’t matter how hard she trains, he will always beat her, and she can only ever hope for a silver medal now. Or bronze, if there is another Lucas.”
As the daughter of "lesbian mothers" this woman was likely told that biology doesn't make a family. And yet, like most other children who are missing their mother or father they are curious about "the other half" of their identity. Once they find it, they discover how powerful blood connection can be:
"Who would I have been if I had grown up knowing her, knowing her story? Does it matter that I’m not Jewish, not Polish, but that I exist because of this bloodline? We don’t ...think about blood ties much these days, or at least I don’t. But it strikes me as incredibly tragic that if I don’t have kids, some part of her story ends with me. Is it presumptuous of me to assume some connection to that story, when in reality her son just jerked off into a cup? I don’t know if I love reading because one of my grandmothers held me on her lap and told me stories, or if my other grandmother, a stranger, gifted me that love through her DNA. Not knowing kills me. Not knowing is the reason I wrote a letter to my sperm donor in the first place."
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“I had one patient we’ll call Andy. Between the ages of 3 and 5, he increasingly played with girls and “girl toys” and said he was a girl. I referred the parents and Andy to a therapist. Sometimes mental illness of a parent or abuse of the child are factors, but more commonly, the child has misperceived family dynamics and internalized a false belief.
In the middle of one session, Andy put down the toy truck, held onto a Barbie, and said, “Mommy and Daddy, you don’t love me w...hen I’m a boy.” When Andy was 3, his sister with special needs was born, and required significantly more of his parents’ attention. Andy misperceived this as “Mommy and Daddy love girls. If I want them to love me, I have to be a girl.” With family therapy Andy got better.
Today, Andy’s parents would be told, “This is who Andy really is. You must ensure that everyone treats him as a girl, or else he will commit suicide.”
Market forces are always seeking to drive down costs. When children become the commodity, the demand for cheap wombs goes up:
"Activists who have been fighting against trafficking claim that victims, including girls under the age of 18, from poor families are being pushed into slavery, prostitution and surrogacy...
Child rights organisations working to prevent such cases are of the view that the surge in immoral trafficking is also linked to pushing the victims into “forced ...surrogacy”, an emerging money spinner.
Earlier a group working against girl trafficking had rescued several victims out of whom four complained of being used as “surrogate mothers”.
Talking to this newspaper about the issue, an activist working with Human Liberty Network said, “Surrogacy racket is booming in the country. Young girls between the age of 17 and 20 are being pushed into the bearing children for others,” said the activist who helped rescue and rehabilitate nearly half a dozen such girls."
#StopSurrogacyNow #ThemBeforeUs #ChildrenAreNotProducts #WomenAreNotBreeders
If the rampant sex scandals in Hollywood and politics have taught us anything, it’s that the world is in desperate need of good men.
They can be found in church. Maybe not every church, but they seem to be in each church I’ve been a part of.
These men are real men. Neither timid nor domineering. They serve while they lead. They hold unflinching to the high standards of the Bible’s moral teaching, even while confessing to one another how they fall short. They serve the widow... and extend protection over fatherless children. They love their wives by providing for them, sometimes working two or three jobs, sometime working jobs that they hate, because they want their children to have the gift of their mother’s presence when they’re young. Far from being oppressive, this masculinity is empowering as is evident by the confident and secure women sitting at their sides.
These worthy men see it as *their job* to raise their sons to respect women, and their boys have a living example of meekness in their home day after day. Their daughters are joy-filled, because they understand what it means to be cherished. These girls can spot a guy who is seeking to use her in the name of love- because they have a living example of protective love in their home day after day.
While the headlines gives us weekly examples of “toxic masculinity,” I find countless examples of true masculinity every Sunday. A masculinity that sees women as different but equal. A masculinity that recognize that manhood carries distinct responsibilities to women and children. I’m so grateful that I and my children are surrounded by men who reveal the best of manhood.
What better way to show love and tolerance in celebration of Australia’s gay marriage bill than to start a tweet storm with the phrase “eat sh* Lyle” against a man who fights for a child’s right to life, opposes euthanizing the elderly and sick, and believes that children have a right to their mother and father?
Apparently a whole a lot of gay activists in Australia decided this is what “love wins” looked like.
I have met Lyle Shelton on a couple of occasions. Neither in per...son nor on camera have I ever witnessed him be less than genteel even in the face of some of the most horrific abuse to be found online. And yet, he doesn’t stop. And he does not allow the cesspool-like comment section change his tone or his message.
Here’s the lesson: If they can hate Lyle, they can hate anyone. But even when they hate you, don’t let it change you.
“Take any group of men on the planet and convince them that there are no sexual boundaries, and you will get America in 2017. Count on it. If you don’t believe this, you are hopeless, naïve, and cannot be helped. Am I acquitting men for their horrible actions? Not in the least. I’m just telling you the absolute truth. Any woman who doesn’t understand this needs to adjust her thinking right now. In a morality-free sexual world, women will be victimized.”
When you find out that your state government is considering allowing people and parents to arbitrariily change their gender on their birth certificates, this is how you spend your afternoon:
To the Washington State Department of Health:
I oppose the proposed change to birth certificates which allow a modified birth certificate to reflect an internally-felt sense of gender rather than one's reality-based and medically-verifiable biological sex. I specifically oppose the optio...
Continue ReadingThe most loving thing that you can do for kids who struggle with gender dysphoria, is assure them that they were born into the right body.
And then you get them help. Not the “help” that will administer drugs and recommend surgery, the kind of help that identifies whatever underlying psychological distress they’re facing and heals it.
And then you push back on whatever forces in your country are promoting the dangerous idea that children can or should “transition” into the o...pposite sex.
Because once you mutilate your child through puberty blockers, hormones, and surgery, there is no going back. That’s something that this mom learned too late:
This article shares the story of a child who is in support of game donation (age 21), and one who is against (age 35). When gathering the stories of kids who have suffered from intentional mother- and fatherlessness, I’ve found that the implications of their parents decisions often don’t fully dawn on them until their late 20s or when they start having children on their own. Here’s the 35yr old:
“I’d often wondered why I looked so different to the people that raised me. I’m t...all, hairy, with dark eyes and features. My parents are shorter, pale with light eyes. I started wondering if maybe I could be of a different ethnicity. Suddenly my whole existence felt like a lie.
My relationship with my social parents deteriorated and I spent years moving around, doing a number of odd jobs. I also battled with gambling issues. I felt like a gypsy...
Even though I am now married, with a young child of my own, I am still against gamete donation. We shouldn't be playing around with science like this. If I had been adopted, it would be easier to trace the story of how I came to be and easier to find roots. As it stands it's unlikely that my egg or sperm donor parents knew each other, and I don't know the motivations of why they chose to donate.
I feel that donor conception is a trade in human beings and very few people consider the effects it has on a child.”
With more and more children experiencing the fallout of abandonment and divorce, donor-conception, or mother- and fatherlessness due to same-sex parenting the next generation understands the real cost when a child’s right to her mother and father is ignored. As their numbers grow, we believe that the fight for children's rights will become a global movement.
This will not be a movement that pits gays against straights or Christians against Atheists. It’s one where all concerned adults defend the rights of all children. Our leaders and ambassadors already include the deeply religious, the wholly secular, single, married, straight, and gay advocates for children.
Here's how you can join the movement:
