If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.
They’re asking you if they can play too.
If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.
They’re asking if they can watch it with you....
When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?”
What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.”
What they’re actually asking: “Can I join you?”
Now here’s the really fucked up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection.
What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]
What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to join me because you don’t know all this stuff. Go away.
“It is literally neurobiologically impossible to think deeply about things that you don’t care about,”
"But I think it’s time for it to be OK for a kid to say, “I’m not going to college. I have specialized in something else.” I think there are some kids who should absolutely say, “I don’t believe I’ll give a university two hundred grand of my money when a degree from them will not serve me one little bit. I have a different path.” If you want a career in medicine, or law, you need college. If you want a career in the arts, you will need the money you would spend on tuition, trust me. But lets admit that both are viable choices
"...when white parents start talking about these issues with our white kids, that’s when change starts."
"...intelligence that’s not modulated and moderated by creativity, common sense and wisdom is not such a positive thing to have. What it leads to is people who are very good at advancing themselves, often at other people’s expense."
"The primary difference between public education and public schooling is that the former is openly accessible and self-directed, while the latter is compulsory and coercive."
"We spend enormous amount of attention helping parents prepare their kids for work and school," Weissbourd says. "We do almost nothing to prepare them for the tender, tough, subtle, generous, focused work of developing mature healthy relationships."
Aaaaaaaand the winner is.....