Another great read!
“When a divorcing couple is made up of one narcissist and one reasonably normal person, the narcissistic spouse can single-handedly create all kinds of conflict...”; (Quote from p. 4, Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family).
Has anyone had issues with the courts, legal professionals, and other divorce professionals not understanding the dynamics of narcissism?
The holidays always seem to be when our site gets the most new "likes". Remember to stay safe everyone- your safety comes first and remember to check in on someone if you know they are in a bad situation this holiday season. They will appreciate the kind gesture.
Having one of those epiphany kind of moments... Over the last three months, I have had three friends who worked for bully bosses. One got a promotion at a different office and transferred out. Another one, got a different job at another company making more money and better benefits. And finally my third friend got a better job with a 25% increase in pay.
We may not always see it, but sometimes in the grand scheme of things- these bullies did us a favor. Because when we leave them, we are wiser and learn from these painful experiences... whereas the bully will always remain a bully and never learn and grow from their life experiences. They push us to our limits and then we start thinking about an exit strategy. These experiences are painful, emotional and traumatic- but we grow from these experiences.
A reader needs advice. When she started a new job less than a year ago, she had to reveal her DV history because she was going to be featured in a newscast with labels identifying her as an employee. She gave minimal details to the employer, but did say that her N-ex is stalking her. Everything went fine, even after company policy changed and she had to report her situation again -- they had a photo of him on file, with name, etc. so she felt pretty secure. Fast forward: ...a new team member started. New "team" member doesn't like working with someone in our reader's situation, so she reported her to HR, saying she created a hostile work environment by talking about her personal situation at work. Our dear reader was written up and put on notice. Talk about being victimized again! She's a hard worker who just had a great performance appraisal till this happened. What advice do you have to offer our friend?