Work
- C.E.O.1992 to presentRedwood City, CaliforniaEvent Planning, Social Media, Brand Management. Travel agent expert MBW Family San Francisco, Vegas, Guadalajara to MN, Disneyland Family Reunions. Helping a little with wedding planning. We live in Northern CA, our kids and grandkids live in UT, Vegas, central CA, So CA, and MN. It takes a village. Our village is nationwide.
- Records Analyst1991 to 1998
- Buyers Assistant1985 to 1989Costa Mesa, California
- Undercover Security Agent1982 to 1985Costa Mesa, California
- Owner1981 to 1982Morro Bay, California
- Maid1981 to 1982San Luis Obispo, CaliforniaThey had an ingenious employee model. All the maids had kids. One maid watched the kids in a motel room, while all the other maids did the work. Then everyone cleaned up the last motel room.
- OwnerIn 1977Glendale, California
- ClericalIn 1976Glendale, California
Education
- 2009 to 2011Theatre ArtsToronto, Ontario
- Gardena, California
- Spanish
- 1978 to 1979Paso Robles, CaliforniaCaptain and Tenille's father Carmen Dragon taught a choir class.
- 1975 to 1976Middletown, Orange County, New York
- 1972 to 1973Glendale, Arizona
- 1971 to 1972Pasadena, California
- Class of 1971La Canada Flintridge, California
Current City and Hometown
Redwood City, CaliforniaCurrent city since
La Canada Flintridge, CaliforniaHometown
Other Places Lived
About Cheryl
- 106 EXCUSES THAT PREVENT YOU FROM EVER BECOMING GREAT
http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/9lwxom/www.chrisbrogan.com/106
20 Ways to Get Good Karma
http://summify.com/story/TwUChC7Xr1L2Cw8-/www.spiritualnow.com/articles/25/1/20-Ways-to-Get-Good-Karma/Page1.html
40 Things to Say Before You Die
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jessicahagy/2012/10/04/40-things-to-say-before-you-die/
My lavender sphynx cat
has fan page facebook.com/sphynxcatboofan
Please fan him.
"Service is the rent you pay for living." Anonymous
- Studying liberal arts Canada College. Loved honors english, arts and music. Now full circle, going for the theatre arts degree. My husband, daughter, cat and I were in last year's school play.
- Repeated Algebra in high school 1970. Repeating it again Jr College 2011 online. *MOAN*
- VOLUNTEER here in Redwood City, CA, animal assisted therapy with my Sphynx cat Boo, and library storybook lady for local preschool. Ham radio general W6RHJ. Trained in Community Emergency Response Team (CERT).
- VOLUNTEER while in Los Angeles County, team mom and PR for international champions high school robotics team (both daughters were captains), took newborn pics at UCLA Harbor Hospital, packed groceries for the needy, washed birds caught in oil slick.
- Records Analyst for Science Applications (SAIC) on Yucca Mountain Project in Vegas
- Mailroom for SAIC.
- Purchasing agent for SAIC on Yucca Mountain Project.
- SIDE JOBS webmaster, forms analysis and design, publicity.
- VOLUNTEER while in Vegas, 12 step survivor meetings, creator of partner of survivor meetings, creator of healing your sexual self meetings, marathon self-help rage and grief workshops, performer for lectures, foster mom for kittens, child support and father's rights activist.
- Buyer's assistant Nordstrom.
- Undercover security arresting shoplifters Nordstrom South Coast Plaza Costa Mesa CA. LOL, I have stories.
- Security for Nordstrom.
- Owned Machine Shop in Morro Bay CA that was on the bay servicing the fisherman. Did the books. Ran the lathe and mill.
- Motel 6 maid.
- VOLUNTEER while in Morro Bay, Catholic High School Youth Minister, Catholic Folk Group Leader, Marriage Encounter team couple.
- Owner of Diamond Plated Tools, another family business.
- Took care of the home for my first husband's family parents and their 4 teens, my 2 little ones, while family business was being built. A washing machine, no dryer, all the cooking. Ahhh, the memories.
- Clerical.
- Bob's Big Boy hostess.
-30 units at Pasadena City College, general education.
- Four years high school drama. Leads in Our Town, Alice in Wonderland that toured the local elementary schools...in my senior year taught creative dramatics to local elementary school and directed their end of year production.
"I'm a damaged person. I'm letting you know ahead of time because damaged people are dangerous. We already know we can survive." Dangerous
Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings' end. Semisonic
“Surthrivers” are people who take what life hands them and not only deal with the situation, but find a way to thrive — to grow stronger — because of what they have survived. Surthrivers make their mark in the world by combining a realistic, hopeful attitude with one of graciousness and wonder. Things don’t always go their way, but they play whatever hand they are given. Sometimes they win, sometimes they lose. Their joy is derived from simply playing the game.” Wendy Cobrda
"No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path." ~ Buddha
"The past does not repeat itself, but it rhymes.” ~ Mark Twain
"Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends and integrity. And you're keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls, family, health,friends and integrity - are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered." ~ James Patterson.
"A stranger than strange preponderance to ponder:
Those in great relationships, Cheryl, aren't always those who are good at relationships.
And those in challenging relationships aren't always those who are bad at relationships.
Oh, see, wow - even though I used preponderance ineptly this one is really good.
Please ponder,
The Universe"
Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we have learned. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and acceptance of love back into our hearts.
“To remain indifferent to the challenges we face is indefensible. If the goal is noble, whether or not it is realized within our lifetime is largely irrelevant. What we must do therefore is to strive and persevere and never give up.”
― Dalai Lama XIV
Favorite Quotes
- “People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of their character.“ Ralph Waldo Emerson
A person’s opinion of the world they live in really seems to be a foolproof litmus test for their strength of character. The tendency towards blame and disdain seems to vary inversely with the virtues of courage and compassion.
“Real isn't how you are made. It's a thing that happens to you. Sometimes it hurts, but when you are Real you don't mind being hurt. It doesn't happen all at once. You become. Once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand. Once you are Real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.”
- Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit
"Here is a good lesson we can learn from GPS or any navigational device. No matter where we are going, it starts from where we are now and not the past. GPS calls this: “Your Location.” The secret to being happy is accepting where you are in life and making the most out of everyday. Living life to the full because it is a gift from God."
If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. ~ Chinese Proverb
"Life is not a final." "I know. It's daily pop quizzes." Criminal Minds
"When it comes to life, we spin our own yarn, and where we end up is really, in fact, where we always intended to be." ~ Julia Glass, Criminal Minds
"The great affair, the love affair with life,
is to live as variously as possible,
to groom one's curiosity like a high-spirited thoroughbred,
climb aboard, and gallop over the thick, sun-struck hills every day.
It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery,
but what a savage and beautiful country lies in between."
-- Diane Ackerman, from "A Natural History of the Senses"
"Everything is more complicated than you think it is right now. And the only way you come to know that is through experience. And that is what this whole process of growing up is all about." Madame Secretary
“You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.” - Friedrich Nietzsche
- "All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That is his." Oscar Wilde
Like mothers, taxes are often misunderstood but seldom forgotten.
— Lord Bramwell
"I may have been born yesterday, but I stayed up and studied." ~ Blue Bloods
"We exist to be memories for our children now." ~ Interstellar
"Don't be afraid to remain permanently confused. Anything is possible. Stay open, forever, so open it hurts, and then open up some more, until the day you die, world without end, amen." George Saunders
My wish for you is......to “Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.” Maya Angelou
“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.” — Unknown
"it's hard to stay mad when there's so much beauty in the world. Sometimes I feel like I'm seeing it all at once, and it's too much. My heart fills up like a balloon that's about to burst. And then I remember to relax, and stop trying to hold on to it, and then it flows through me like rain, and I can't feel anything but gratitude for every single moment of my stupid little life. You have no idea what I'm talking about, I'm sure. But don't worry. You will someday." - American Beauty
"I was listening to my good friend here in Cali complain about sharing her business with people. I said to her, Sharing with someone in email something horrible that happened to you and they never responded means they were curious, not truly concerned, make better decisions, live and learn. Very few people care what really happened, they are more curious than anything. Your life is not a Circus. If they want curiosity, go to "Believe it Not"." @KimberlyJessy
If you can't be a good example, then you'll have to be a horrible warning. Catherine Aird, Crime Fiction Novelist
- "We are connected in that deep and torturous way that only mothers and daughters can bear. It is one part barbed wire, and two parts that lyrical, mystical waltz – unconditional love." - Jonatha Brooke
Life provides losses and heartbreak for all of us, but the greatest tragedy is to have the experience and miss the meaning. Anon - Robin medical leave GMA
- "Make your mess your message." Robin Roberts Good Morning America
- "We teach what we most need to learn." Anonymous
- "...consider what it means to ‘let everything be as it is.’ I discovered that resistance of any kind to the experience of life, inner and outer, as it is, creates the painful illusion of a separate self that then has to struggle for its own existence against the onslaught of forces beyond its control.
Simply relinquishing this position results in the overwhelming discovery that one never actually existed as the person one thought one was, a discovery that is simultaneously unsettling and liberating. In that recognition all boundaries disappear, as one's self-sense expands infinitely in all directions...” 11 Days at the Edge
- "Along the way, I realized that the barbed labels cast my way had very little to do with me. They reflected everyone else's fear of change and of not being able to lean on me. My job was to save the only life I could save--my own!" A Weekend to Change Your Life
- "Happiness is a state of mind, I haven't a clue as to how to drive to that state." famous psychologist
- "Love is a wonderful thing, but it hurts." Joan Erikson
- "This is the true joy in life,... being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one... being a force of Nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy...Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got a hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it onto future generations." George Bernard Shaw
- "Con remembered, ‘The moment Gert caught sight of her, the transformation in her face. It was not just relief, it was joy -- extravagant, embarrassing -- at the sight of her daughter.’ Finally Con grasps one profound truth: she was greatly loved…Con may not have been able to say a last goodbye, but in realizing how much her mother loved her she determines to live so that final farewells no longer matter. It is worth the journey to get to such an understanding.” The Secret Mother
- "We never touch people so lightly that we do not leave a trace." Peggy Tabor Millin
- "Sadness is when everything matters. Depression is when nothing matters." Gloria Steinhem.
- "Every woman is the leader she was looking for." Maria Shriver
- "Maybe you’ve got to sit with the past before you walk away from it." Criminal Minds
- “Looking at my family now, I note there have been 11…divorces, spread across generations—more than enough for a soap, and not what its members would have invented for themselves as children. But we cannot now unimagined the new fathers and step-aunts and half brothers or sisters and half grandnieces that sit around the family tables on a Thanksgiving, or wish a life for ourselves that did not include unexpected attachments.” Roger Angell
"‘Oh, to be seventy again! You can do anything when you are seventy.”
- Marjorie Hinckley
(Said that to herself over and over again when she turned 70 quoting her friend who was in her 90s.)
From Criminal Minds "Worse than telling a lie is spending your whole life staying true to a lie." Robert Brault
“A book must be the ax for the frozen sea inside us.” Franz Kafka
The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. The female existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. Anon
"You know damn well what I mean," being interrogated.
"Say what you mean I promise not to miss it."
Sheriff Longmire tv show.
LOL!
"The interests of the living must outweigh the interests of the dead.
You assert that reading this diary was disturbing, and I believe you. But did you gain anything from the experience? Do you understand your mother in a deeper, more adult context? Did you learn things your siblings could never understand without reading this material? I mean, your aunt chose to show you this diary — possibly because she didn’t know what else to do, but more likely because she thought it was important. You’re the eldest child, but that doesn’t give you privileged access to your mother’s mind. If the content mattered to you, it would matter to your brothers and sisters.
What you need to weigh is the possibility for harm against the potential for benefit. If you believe this diary would only damage your family’s collective existence (with no ancillary upside), you may still want to burn it. But the facts of the matter are that your mom is dead and your siblings are alive; their understanding of reality must come before her unarticulated wishes. If there is anything in this diary that they would want to know (even if those things are painful), they deserve to see it."
ethicist@nytimes.com
Great heroes need great sorrows and burdens, or half their greatness goes unnoticed. P Beagle
“You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, or who had ever been alive.”
― James Baldwin
"When life hands u lemons, make grape juice and let everyone wonder how u did it." Dr.Oz
"...and only then do you realize that it’s really a story about childhood intolerance, our need to misunderstand our parents so that we can be embarrassed by them, and about filial guilt. At the end, the narrator remarks almost matter-of-factly that years later, living in Vancouver, she did not go home for her mother’s last illness or even her funeral, and she ends the story this way: “We say of some things that they can’t be forgiven, or that we will never forgive ourselves. But we do — we do it all the time.” The deeper theme here, as so often in Munro’s work, is memory itself and its selectivity and unreliability, its falseness even. As one character observes, no lies are “as strong as the lies we tell ourselves and then unfortunately have to keep telling.” Book reviewer about Alice Munro
I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it. ~Pablo Picasso
"Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is Enlightenment." - Lao Tzu
"Getting rid of a delusion makes us wiser than getting holding of the truth." ~ Ludwig Borne - Criminal Minds
Have you ever thought of your loss experiences as being your personal Hero's Journey? Do I wish we hadn’t gotten the call? Absolutely! But today I have an amazing life filled with people who understand the meaning of service. When people ask if I have found closure I like to quote my friend Robert Neimeyer, “Closure is for bank accounts, not love accounts." Rebecca Guevara
“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.” – Alvin Toffler
"I don’t know what Felix will discover when he allows himself to be bored, to be empty. I do know that when he realizes it’s OK, he will free himself to pursue his biggest goals and dreams."
http://www.fastcompany.com/ 3004957/ how-develop-strong-ti me-management-habits -even-if-youve-faile d-past
It's not what we leave our kids, it's what we leave in them that counts- Valerie Sokolsky
FEEL you already have what you desire...when you do all anxiety fades...and the door opens to receiving it. ~denny
#courage only exists in the presence of fear. Same with #leadership.
When people say, 'She's got everything', I've got one answer - I haven't had tomorrow. Elizabeth Taylor
"Death is a stripping away of all that is not you. The secret of life is to "die before you die" — and find that there is no death" ~ ET
“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the girl who’ll decide where to go.” Dr. Seuss
"You know families aren't made in big formal ceremonies. They're forged day by day in smaller moments of hope and heartache, and through arguments and kindnesses. It's what makes you a family, truly knowing one another, flaws and all, through life's joys and surprises." 1600 Penn tv show
"Sandberg is right to encourage young women to imagine the biggest, brightest lives for themselves. I hope her book launches a million conversations. There are at least that many ways to compose a life, and there will always be roads not taken, no matter how high we climb." Connie Schultz
So the universe is not quite as you thought it was. You'd better rearrange your beliefs, then. Because you certainly can't rearrange the universe," by Isaac Asimov.
God give me the strength to get up when I fall - and the grace to forgive those who gave me the push.
We are all continually asked to learn to ask for what we need only to practice accepting what we're given. That's a paradox. The reward for asking what we need is we become intimate with our own nature. We learn who we are. The reward for practicing accepting what we are given is we become intimate with everything that is not us. We become intimate with the nature of life. It's the rhythm between the nature of life and our own life that allows us to find the thread we are in the unseeable connections that hold everything together. Mark Nepo
Only an act of true love can thaw a frozen heart. Disney Movie Frozen
When truth is buried it grows, it chokes, it gathers such an explosive force that on the day it bursts out, it blows up everything with it. Emile Zola, 1898
I dropped a tear in the ocean. The day you find it is the day I will stop missing you. ~Author Unknown
You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life. —Churchill
When it gets dark enough you can see stars.
3 methods to learn wisdom: 1 reflection, which is noblest; 2 imitation, which is easiest; & 3 experience, which is bitterest. Confucius
Sometimes we forgive people because their absence hurts more than their mistake.
Human beings can transform themselves. They can grow larger or smaller but they grow every day. ~ Walter Anderson
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.”
The universe doesn't like secrets. It conspires to reveal the truth, to lead you to it. Lisa Unger
Time decides who you meet in life, your heart decides who you want in your life, and your behavior decides who stays in your life.
“Death is very likely the single best invention of life. It's life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.”
Don't tell me what they said about me. Tell me why they were so comfortable to say it around you.
"Friendship multiplies the good in life, & divides the evil." ~ Baltasar Gracian
"If you are arguing against compassion, regardless of the circumstances, you are on the wrong side!"
"Relationships can get very messy, but, sometimes, they can become such a beautiful mess! Don't be afraid to play in the dirt!"
"Truly whatever arises in life is the right material to bring about your growth and the growth of those around you." -Marcus Aurelius
'Shakespeare: It’s all there, keen-eyed portraits of human nature — all the aspirations, foibles, fear, ruthlessness, courage, willful blindness, vain glory.
It is humanity’s durable virtues and failings that explain all human realms, chiefly about people and their relationships — relationships with others, with their masters, with power, authority, truth and conscience.' Paraphrased from Jim Coyle
“Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal
hanging on of an uncompleted task.”
/ -- William James
If you can't find the beauty in a situation, at least find the lesson in it.
"How old were you then? Five? No, really, eight?"
"I was old enough."
"Old enough for what? To listen to what your parents told you and believe it because they said it was true. Afraid to think for yourself. Scared to look at all the facts. And for what? So you'd never have to admit to yourself that you might be wrong." Defense lawyer to town resident Rectify TV Show
"Can you be curious instead of furious?" #RelationshipSkill
“Time is a created thing. To say 'I don't have time,' is like saying, 'I don't want to.” - Lao Tzu
"What the hell was that?" "Marilyn's response to stress. She has a Borderline Personality disorder. She compartmentalizes the world. She's always right and anyone who challenges her is not only wrong but her enemy." "Including her children." "Absolutely. Adam always obeyed her so he was good. Jacob didn't, that made him bad." "So she doesn't really love them." "It's a twisted narcissistic kind of love. As soon as her kids show any individuality, she perceives it as rejection and an attack." "What made her this way?" "Maybe an inadequate attachment to her own mother, maybe she was abused herself..." Law & Order SVU
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” - William Arthur Ward
“All it takes is one person in any generation to heal a family’s limiting beliefs.” - Gregg Braden
Feelings only last for 3 seconds until you feed them with thoughts.
“When I marched in Selma, I felt my legs were praying.”
– Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel
Every now and then there appears a person who reminds us of our highest aspirations. He or she usually upsets the status quo, is often hated by some, but over time brings people together, and – sadly – disappears all too quickly. Think of these people, at least once a year, and recall their sacrifice, their teachings, and their contributions to humanity. That is, no doubt, the purpose of their appearance before us.
© 2015, Alan L. Sklover. All Rights Reserved
"A great person attracts great people and knows how to hold them together. "Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“It’s no wonder that truth is stranger than fiction. Fiction has to make sense.” Mark Twain
“Let us live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.” ~ Mark Twain
The shoe that fits one pinches another;
There is no recipe for living that suits all cases
- Carl Jung
Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door
- Coco Chanel
“Learning to let go should be learned before learning to get. Life should be touched, not strangled. You’ve got to relax, let it happen at times, and let others move forward with it.” ~ Ray Bradbury
"Fair" is a place where they have cotton candy and a merry-go-round.
#BlendedFamily Yes, we've had issues. We've fixed issues. We've had more issues. We keep putting one foot in front of the other. http://www.huffingtonpost.co m/ karl-a-pillemer-phd/ parents-estranged-chi ldren_b_7297294.html
"If you have been touched by the demon, it's like being touched by the back hand of God. Makes you sacred in a way. Doesn't it? Makes you unique in a kind of glory. The glory of suffering even." Priest on Penny Dreadful to Vanessa
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