For young survivors, there remain few available resources and places to turn for help in the aftermath of sexual violence. Today, along with the Victim Rights Law Center, we are so excited to share our new K-12 Resource Bank and Guide, created specifically for young people and their caretakers:
NOW AVAILABLE! The VRLC, along with Surviving in Numbers, has created a resource specifically for K-12 survivors and their caretakers. See below for our announcement, the guide, and resource bank for the youngest survivors.
Every young person deserves autonomy over their own choices and body. Instead, let’s teach how to respect someone’s “no.”
For so many young people, sports provide community and encouragement. Every athlete deserves to pursue their dreams in an environment free from abuse by those they must trust and rely on most.
February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. 1 in 3 teens is a victim of dating abuse by a partner, and only 1 in 3 teens who experiences dating violence will tell anyone. All survivors deserve to be heard, believed, and supported. Survivors, you are powerful. You deserve a relationship that is safe. We’re with you. #TDVAM
"It was not the experience of being raped that I survived. I survived what came after: the fact of being trapped inside a body I despised with a fresh, searing hatred of which I had not known I was capable... I survived a reorganization of my world to allow for random people to do horrible things to good people."
The idea of strength in numbers is that when we stand together, we can build a powerful, resilient community -- it's part of why we were founded. We stand with the more than 160 women who say they were abused by a doctor who was charged with treating them so they could continue the sport they love, and we are so inspired by these brave survivors. Survivors, never forget you are powerful.
The holidays can be hard for survivors. Whether you have to spend time with an abuser at a family gathering, whether this time of year reminds you of what you’ve experienced, or if this time of year just makes you feel isolated, know that you are not alone - you are courageous. We are with you.
"How much easier it is to cop to “thoughtlessness” or “insensitivity” (another favorite word of the accused) — to hurting someone’s feelings, essentially — than to acknowledge the realities women enumerate: panic, revulsion, rage, depression, decades of lost work. There’s a profound dissonance between the gravity of the events the women describe and the men’s mild interpretations."
"For every Mario Batali, for every Kevin Spacey, for every Al Franken, as much as you liked them or believed in them, there’s someone right behind them that’s just as talented, just as capable, that’s going to be just as inspiring, that’s not actively hurting people."
Survivors everywhere: you are champions. Never doubt how much your voice matters.
"You impact each of us differently, and it is not only for the impact you’ve had on us, but because you’ve abused your power at all, that you must now go away. You abused your power, and by holding you responsible, we are reclaiming ours."
Abusers are not "breaking their silence" when they give these statements. That's the phrase the public & the media use about survivors who come forward -- because for a survivor to speak takes courage, puts them at risk, and means speaking about violence committed against them. Accused abusers speak to attempt to reclaim their reputations, not "break" their "silence." They have power. They have abused it. Do not give them more.
In the past few months, there has been a wave of survivors sharing their experiences of abuse by those in power. But for so many -- the survivor abused or assaulted by their boss, family member, friend, partner, or classmate -- sharing remains terrifying and isolating. For 4 years, Surviving in Numbers has been the place where many first share their experiences, whether they were assaulted recently or 30+ years ago. For many survivors, sharing in this way is "the first time I... was believed," "the first time I felt safe enough to share," or "helped me finally feel less alone." Surviving in Numbers amplifies survivors' voices & drives culture change: in the last 4 years, we've trained over 10,000 students on prevention, changing campus culture, challenging victim-blaming, and how to better support survivors.
Today is #GivingTuesday, and today only, Facebook is partnering with the Gates Foundation to match all donations & waive donation fees, meaning your gift is even more impactful. Thank you for showing up for survivors & changing the culture with us!
Supporting survivors of sexual violence feels particularly fitting this year. We have seen so many brave survivors telling their stories - but so many more have not been able to do so. My friend Ali Safran founded Surviving in Numbers to provide a safe community for survivors to share their stories. 155,000 people visit the website EVERY MONTH. Ali also runs sexual violence prevention workshops at high schools, colleges, and military bases. I hope you'll join me in supporting this amazing organization!
Surviving in Numbers aims to raise awareness of sexual and domestic violence and change the culture that allows these issues to persist.