How to deal with love for the opposite sex before marriage

Love and attraction towards the opposite sex before marriage is something that is not under one’s control, but our Lord, may He be glorified, has explained how to deal with it in the verse in which He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you will have them in...

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His mother died in kufr – can he pray for her?

Can a muslim pray for his non-mulsim mother who has passed away?

Praise be to Allaah.

Allaah says in His Book (interpretation of the meaning):

“It is not (proper) for the Prophet and those who believe to ask Allaah’s forgiveness for the Mushrikoon, even though they be of kin, after it has become clear to them that they are the dwellers of the Fire (because they died in a state of disbelief)” [al-Tawbah 9:113]

Al-Qurtubi said in al-Ahkaam (8/173): “This aayah means that one should cut off ties of close friendship with the kuffaar, whether they are alive or dead. Allaah did not allow the believers to pray for forgiveness for the mushrikeen. Seeking forgiveness for a mushrik is something that is not permitted.”

Muslim narrated in his Saheeh (916) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I asked my Lord for permission to pray for forgiveness for my mother, and He did not permit me. I asked Him for permission to visit her grave, and He granted me permission.”

This hadeeth makes it clear that Allaah did not permit His Prophet, who is the noblest of His creation, to seek forgiveness for his mother after she had died. This is what Allaah forbids in the aayah quoted above, and the hadeeth states this clearly. Al-Shawkaani said in Fath al-Qadeer (2/410): This aayah implies that there are no ties of close friendship with the kuffaar, and that it is haraam to pray for forgiveness for them, or to make du’aa’ for kaafirs in ways that are not permitted.

If someone were to say that Ibraaheem prayed for his kaafir father, as he said,

“Peace be on you! I will ask forgiveness of my Lord for you. Verily, He is unto me Ever Most Gracious” [Maryam 19:47 – interpretation of the meaning],

the response to that is what Allaah said in the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):

“And Ibraaheem’s (Abraham) invoking (of Allaah) for his father’s forgiveness was only because of a promise he [Ibraaheem] had made to him (his father). But when it became clear to him that he (his father) is an enemy of Allaah, he dissociated himself from him. Verily, Ibraaheem was Awwah (one who invokes Allaah with humility, glorifies Him and remembers Him much) and was forbearing” [al-Tawbah 9:114]

Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: When he died, it became clear to him that he was an enemy of Allaah. (Tafseer Ibn Katheer).

And Allaah knows best.

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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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Is it essential to wash away dirt under the nails when doing wudoo’?

I have a few questions regarding wudu. what is meant by when washing the face it needs to be done from "ear to ear" does it mean where the top of the ear connects to the head going towords the face so includein some of the side burns? please clarify also when wipeing the ear does the entire ear have to be wiped front to back becuase the ear and on my foot toe nail of the nail is average big and if firmly on ...

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Are the resurrection, Paradise and Hell something real or merely symbolic?

Do you think that the belief of judgement day and paradise and hell should be taken literally or symbolically?

Praise be to Allaah.

One of the pillars of faith in Islam is belief in the resurrection after death. Paradise and Hell are real and it is obligatory to believe in them. Whoever believes in Allaah and does righteous deeds, his final abode will be in Paradise in the real sense, and whoever disbelieves in Allaah will be one of the people of Hell in the real sense, and both of them will abide therein forever.

Shaykh ‘Abd al-Kareem al-Khudayr

The enemies of the Prophets – the mushrikeen (polytheists, those who join others in worship with Allaah) and the philosophers and others – denied that the resurrection after death, the Reckoning and Paradise and Hell are real, and they described these things as mere symbols, which they interpreted in a manner different from that in which the believers understand them; this is disbelief in the words of Allaah and His Prophets and Messengers. For Paradise and Hell, the Siraat (a bridge over Hell in the Hereafter), the Balance, the Cistern, the Throne, the Footstool and other things are all real, and we believe in them in the real sense; we do not play about with the words, rather we believe in them implicitly as narrated in the reports.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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If someone does not believe in the Last Day, no faith or righteous deeds will benefit him at all

Could faith benefit a person in the hereafter even though he does not believe in the Last Day or in Paradise and Hell?


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How to deal with papers on which Allaah’s name is mentioned

What is the sharia's ruling about personal names found in newspapers etc that include either the prophet's name or Allah's name (Abdullah, AbdulKarim)? How may these papers be disposed of or destroyed?

Praise be to Allaah.

These papers on which Allaah’s name is mentioned should be kept and protected against being handled with disrespect until you have finished with them. When you have finished with them and no longer have any need of them, they should be buried in a clean place, or burnt, or kept in a place where they will be protected against disrespect, such as in a cupboard or on shelves, etc.

Fatwa of Shaykh Ibn Baaz from Fataawa Islamiyyah, vol. 4, p. 313.

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Should He Forsake His Family Who Reject the Sunnah?

If a person's family rejects the necessity of following anything that's in hadeeth (prophetic traditions) at all, and says you can follow only the Qur'an, can you give them salaams (Islamic greetings) and say "’Eid Mubarak" (Happy ‘Eid) to them to reduce fitnah (trouble) and not make them upset?


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What are the means of making death, the grave and the Day of Resurrection stations of joy and happiness?

What are the means and factors that will make death, the grave and the Day of Resurrection stations of joy and happiness for the Muslim?


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Physical action is an essential part of faith without which faith is not sound

Some people think that physical righteous deeds are a prerequisite for the perfection of faith, but not one of the essential elements thereof, or in other words, they are not essential for the validity of faith. There has been a great deal of disagreement among people concerning this matter, so we hope that you can explain how valid this argument is, may Allah reward you. Please explain how importa...

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How sound is the hadith about the virtue of shaking hand with one’s wife when entering the home?

There is a widely-shared clip by a preacher entitled “An easy way for spouses to shed their sins,” in which he quotes a hadith: “Any man who enters his house, greets his family with salaam, shakes his wife’s hand and pats her hand gently, both their sins will be shed as the leaves of a tree are shed on a winter’s day.” Is it Sunnah to shake one’s wife’s hand when entering the home...

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Evidence that Allah is Exalted, High Above His Creation and Above the Heavens

Some people say that Allah is above the heavens (according to one of the verses of the Quran), and may scholars say that Allah exists without a place, since only the creation has the characteristic of needing a place and we know the ayah "Laysa-ka-mithli-he-shay" - (proving Allah does not resemble His creation); is He everywhere, existing without a place, or above the heavens?


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What is meant by saying “Allah is in heaven”?

I have heard someone deny that Allah, may He be exalted, is in heaven. He says: The heaven (or the sky) is going to cease to exist; exalted be Allah above occupying space in it. And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The heaven creaked, and no wonder it creaked, for there is no spot in it but there is an angel there, standing or bowing or prostrating.” So exalted be Allah above occupying space among the ...

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The phenomenon of cheating

The phenomenon of cheating is widespread in society. What is the attitude of Islam towards this phenomenon?


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He owns a gold watch; how can he dispose of it in such a way that he does not commit any infraction?

How can a man dispose of the following haram items: 1) A very very expensive gold watch 2) An expensive coat that has illustrations of people on them Are there any ways to dispose of these haram items by selling them to the kuffar, giving to charity, etc?


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She married a non-Muslim and he refuses to become Muslim

One of my friend her name is Farhana 20 years old girl has married a non Muslim boy before 2 years ago.
now she has realized according to Islam she has done a mistake. she has tried to convert her husband in to Islam but he is nor ready to accept it.Fortunately they dont have kids. and her husband has told if they get a kid in future he wants to grow the kid as non Muslim way. So now Farhana has confused what type of ac...

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The ruling on adding “ar-Rahmaan ar-Raheem” when mentioning the name of Allah before doing wudoo’

Previously I used to do wudoo’ and mention the name of Allah by saying “Bismillah ar-Rahmaan ar-Raheem”, but I read something by one of the scholars saying that it is not valid. Is this view correct?



Praise be to Allah

We have discussed the issue of it being prescribed to mention the name of Allah when doing wudoo’ in the answer to question no. 21241.

The format is for the one who wants to do wudoo’ to say “Bismillah.” If he wants to add the words “ar-Rahmaan ar-Raheem,” there is a difference of scholarly opinion concerning that. Some scholars are of the view that that is more perfect, and others are of the view that it is better not to add these words and to limit it to saying “Bismillah.”

An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said regarding mentioning the name of Allah when doing wudoo’:

It should be understood that the more perfect way of mentioning the name of Allah is to say “Bismillah ar-Rahmaan ar-Raheem”, but if one says “Bismillah” only, then he has attained the virtue of mentioning the name of Allah, and there is no difference of scholarly opinion on that score.

End quote from al-Majmoo‘ (1/386).

Shaykh ad-Dardeer al-Maaliki (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

Mentioning the name of Allah means saying, when washing the hands up to the wrists, “Bismillah.” With regard to adding the words “ar-Rahmaan ar-Raheem,” there is a difference of opinion.

End quote from ash-Sharh as-Sagheer li Aqrab al-Masaalik (1/122).

Shaykh ‘Abdullah ibn Jibreen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no wudoo’ for one who does not mention the name of Allah when doing it.” The point at which that is to be done is when starting to wash the hands, or when starting to rinse out the mouth. One should say, “Bismillah.” Some of the scholars are of the view that it is obligatory, but it is waived in the case of one who forgets or is unaware of it. As for the one who remembers, he should do that by saying, “Bismillah,” and that is sufficient. If he completes it by saying “Bismillah ar-Rahmaan ar-Raheem”, that is permissible.

End quote from Sharh ‘Umdat al-Ahkaam by Ibn Jibreen.

With regard to the view that if someone says “Bismillah ar-Rahmaan ar-Raheem”, it is not acceptable, we have not come across any of the scholars saying this. Rather their difference of opinion is as to whether it is better to add this phrase or not, and not one of the scholars says that if someone adds it, his wudoo’ is not valid.

And Allah knows best.
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What is the ruling on Valentine’s Day?

Praise be to Allaah.

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