2017 Parents of Murdered Children (POMC) National Conference held at Crystal cove. A time for instruction, renewal, reflection, and communion with fellow members. POMC is not a club anyone volunteers to join. When a loved one dies by violence, it is a grief from which no one fully recovers. The road to new normals is a journey hard traveled, but best traveled in the community of others who understand. 💔🕊

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September 27. The day of the worst possible nightmare any parent could imagine.

My six year old severely disabled son was murdered.
I was charged with his murder.
My daughter was taken away from me and given to my abusive ex-husband to raise. ...
I almost went crazy with shock and grief.

It took 18 years before my son's case was solved.

Harley Debs Spencer murdered my child.

He's out of prison now.
If you live in Utah, he could be your neighbor.

If anything like this happened to you or someone you know, I want to hear from you.

Please share this FB page to the public.
Check out my website:

The two Teddy bears were donated for The National Day of Remembrance for Victims of Violence, 2016, one for both my children who were affected by murder.

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If you experienced the loss of a child, you are not alone.

The death of a child is a parent's worst nightmare.


My son, Adam, was a special child.

He was so sick when he was born, I was told he wouldn't live.

He beat the odds because he had a strong will to survive.

He was my inspiration to become a nurse.

He was murdered by his babysitter when he was six.

I was originally accused.

His murder took eighteen years to solve.

It's taken me over thirty years to openly share.

Healing is a conscious and constant process.

It involves memory, heart, emotions, spirit, body, and soul.

Please visit my website:

Feel free to share your story of loss.

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If you have lost a loved one to murder, please feel to share your story via e-mail.

You are not alone.

Healing is a continuous process.


It doesn’t occur without excruciating pain.

Believe me, I understand.

Browse my website:
or: Breaking Crazy - Memoir of a Murdered Child

These were Adam’s slippers and shoes, sizes 00 to 1, infant.
He couldn’t walk so he never wore out the soles.

At the time of his murder, he was six years old.
Cornelia de Lange Syndrome kept him defenseless and small.

His favorite shoes were his 'work boots' because he felt like a big boy when he wore them.

He also liked his Cookie Monster slippers.
Adam would kick his feet up, study the big googly eyes, and giggle.

He was my little efl boy.

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$5 Admission allows unlimited rides. Invite the family to help fund the National Day of Remembrance Phoenix chapter.

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