NOT HERE TO MAKE FRIENDS: Wednesday Feb 5

I need to make them friends the psychological sewer of Australia televisions the absolute of TV. I'm not here to make friends that you guys. I could care less. I'm not here to make friends. I'm not here to make fans. Yeah right. you're not here to make friends. She's not here to make any friends. I'm not here to make friends. What what what what let's be friends come by my look. No can I guys. It's not here to make friends with me. James from News dot com dot AU. I'm joined by author and commentator Carrie Sackville Hello and Australia's favorite disgraced politician Sam. She went with Christ about what other identifies do you go with the newspapers tend to call me a colorful identity. Okay like Johnny Gone with Australia's serious politician. Oh yeah. so you were really impressed with Sam's hair when he came in a lot of work went into this, I said. It looked like a real effortless wave and you were so offended that I said effortless definitely. it's not effortless now a lot of product and a lot of animals who died to go into this right good to know Sam, you've said. You've never watched. In your life, we've spent the last two hours pouring over the episode that just went to wear and I like I think I gave you the brief when you were like no. I don't even know what it is. I said. Matt Matt dinner parties are basically the same as parliament sittings. Yeah, so you are more than up to speed. It's like Solomon except there's less alcohol being drunk. Yup and then look okay unless people have sex. So let's keep going okay and I gotta say, look we've got a jam-packed show. we're gonna be talking. obviously about the show. We're gonna dive in deep. We're gonna take a deep yes so. Very deep like David, I'm happy Diving deep correct correct, but we also want we also want people to join in the fun here. Okay. so you can comment below on live stream. We'll try and get you on the phone. If you wanna if you got any fun stories that you wanna share you can hit me up on my socials. My handle is at Hello James. We are on Twitter and Facebook. we're also gonna be talking to an AC sexual woman who went through the interview process to get on this show and then got ghosted by not less and AC sexual make this show work. Alright, I just can sit she sort of gets up. The altar and looks at her husband and it's like I'm gonna love you forever, but I'm not gonna have sex with him and that's the thing I think it would be beautiful. Look. I think it took a while for the producers to realize what a sexual leads and then they thought. Oh, they shows about cheating. you're not gonna this is gonna not gonna be any fun with you and so she also holds AMA session so she wants us to go. Yeah ask me anything ask me anything, she said. Look at any question, she said. No question is too silly or ignorant. She wants to you know she wants questions if you got. Hit us up also Sam you've made it a little bit awkward. You said the first time we met, which was last year. You know we kind of known each other from around you message me you came in and you said I've got to confess something okay. No. I wanna tell you exactly what happened. I screw this right? Okay so James we had just walked out of the set of the colon. Jackie Show. Yeah, Kyle and Jackie and then there was like an ad break. Yeah Kiss FM. There was an outbreak in between and then I was going on. I said. I went at James and said. Look don't take this. I'm a huge. I fucking love your writing. It's amazing. It's fantastic. It's great. can we go and have dinner? Yeah and and I said, yeah, I'm still I'm stabbing fans. That's what I do my segment break and you know it breaks and goes to break and I go to Jackie Henderson, I said. Oh, yeah. I just spoke to James. I got his number. We're gonna have dinner and she looks at me guys. He definitely thinks you're trying to have sex with you. I didn't say no. I think Australia is most prominent disgraced politician was trying to have sex with me. well, I'm I'm offended in a little hurt. I in no way. Did I want to position myself as the Monica Lewinsky of Australia? That's right? That's it, but I'm complimented the blue dress, but you were roller skates If I remember correctly right, Yes, I did my denim shorts and my roller skates. so we end up getting a headshot for you know a new test and then Jackie goes to me. you just can't show up. He's gonna assume gonna have sex with him and then intern. he said that like that. Thing Well, No, I am flattered maybe curious, but he was it and then our intern pizza was like I have sex with him all right so Pete replicate and then one of my main newspaper. I'm not gonna name he who's gay, said. I don't think I'll come to set it up being a group of men in me trying to have sex with James and can I just say I rolled up to this night and I said to someone it this is I don't I don't wanna have drinks with any of these people. Oh why am I here? I just wanna go. With them, you know and then all of a sudden like a year later, I find out there was I don't know if they were promised sex that then I didn't give up. so I've just been sensing all night that Sam really wishes that you did wanna have sex with him. I don't really need to watch this show He doesn't care if I wanna have sex, but it's all about. he's disappointed about him. You know this is you got nothing to do with this. No look okay. so you have never seen married at first sight before nine some of your pieces right. So you're familiar with how the show goes. Carrie Oh, I've watched. Yeah, I've watched it many many you've studied it. okay. So we have the class is shown to you. If I just I just have to throw that machine just to be able to like, say the words most of us. Yeah, most of Australia does so we met two more couples tonight and I really wanna start with the person who I was looking for too much. so it was Hailey Hailey now can I just stay out in front? Yeah that we had two couples tonight. Yeah and they looked identical and every time they came on screen. I had to say to you okay, which one is that so the two women look the same. Look the same Yeah, and I just would like to say to the mess editors maybe next time mix it up a little bit. so we don't have the identical couples in the same episode cuz I still can't work out, which is the one who's done many many many substances. Yes, the myth and pot. I mean played there were several songs. This is the thing that I love about Hailey and like totally not shining her in any way. I just adore her so much. She is a reformed drug addict and I just love so much about her story. there was a a tabloid rumor that went around and it's it's not true, you know. they said look you know, the report said that she'd done heroin. She came out and slammed that report and she said I've only done meth and cannabis and when I suspect Hall is the kind of person I met before, but I think it was preceded with the words welcome to the stage right. Okay. I like that one hang there. Yeah. I like that. Okay. Yeah. I'm okay. Okay. So the thing I love most about Hailey story is for eight years. She was in the depths of addiction and then unlike one of her lowest nights, everything turned around and it's. Of a fit fluent sir on Instagram, I know so this fit fluency slid into her DMs like the hand of God and and called to her and said, move to Queensland and train with me. Yes and Hailey did yeah and now look at her now and then we cut to footage of her walking down the Street in a in a bloody caplet, and that is how you really know someone's turned their life around if they're wearing a capless. when they're too busy for sleeves. Hailey was hot. Hailey was hot, Look, Babe Town and the guy who would you sugar? That I think highly looked at as her groom said very fit very very, very few such a British wife. so okay, so I actually met in a sense that she exercised. Yeah. So, David said. You know there's skinny girls in this fit girls and she's she's okay. Can we talk about David for a second? I just want to talk more about the Cape yesterday. Yeah, I could talk about. I just wanna say as like you know she's sort of come through this tough time and she's used several substances cuz she says that all the time she's used several not just why not just to several. It was something other than cuz that's too. She's yeah. She's done pot. Yeah. she's that alcohol. She claims She has a non heroin right. Yeah. So there's plenty of others. Once you've done myth, you must have done like some mushrooms and we cannot speculate Sam Dusty drill. Okay. Maybe that over-the-counter drug that you need to show your license for. Yeah exactly maybe four. Yeah. yes not forth. I think you could snort anything. I'm gonna smell some of these chips in a second the ball has. Yeah. window down. Yes David's David's parents so thrilled then you drug addict sort reform reform drug addict Yeah quarter in law. I know I guess it wasn't their issue. Their issue wasn't that so David's parents are Super religious and he rolls into their little House and he says man. I'm going on the show and we just you know we mentioned Hailey's cable. can we just give a shout out to David's mother's padded puffy vest. It was. I think I had a joint sky. he did no. It was a combo. It was a combo. I mean, really she was. She got the short ball hair. I was feeling it good look and she was no nonsense. I swear all of that. I took one look at his mom and I said you know and you are not gonna like this. She's salted the Earth sees he said. Hey, I'm going on married at first sight and they said you know we're really just in you. a baptized. Yeah. Oh wow. I didn't know they ask you that in the in the application, No no. I'm sure yeah definitely would shoot a drug addict and have you been baptized. I have done one of these. I did this jungle thing last year. Yes, yes. I'm desperate for it. Yeah I know and and and the Harris man in the Harris and the form they make you feel at the crazy for right. so it's I believe it's the same one cuz the same company does the okay. Here's the back end of how this rally shows actually work. Yeah. there are different companies that make the shows there is only one company. That's the psychiatric. Oh really okay. question is this Are you crazy enough to be interesting? Yeah but not crazy enough to harm yourself right? Okay and I imagine. Map That's a different look. There's a threshold, Yup and they push it up to the threshold and that yes, they ask you all these kinds of questions and yeah they go through it. All you gotta make sure is he crazy. Can you be crazy? How crazy can you be? what can you do? It's crazy? but yeah, there's a limit to what they're prepared to take and I imagine the threshold map a little bit lower. Yeah because look we're all about the love, but we're also all about the drama. Yeah. and so with Hailey her four -wheel drive limo barges over the the Green terrain she rock set on the oil the parents alert white with terror yeah ah you know she is I think the word is green green they took one look at her arm sleeve tattoo I love the tattoo let's let's be honest and ah you know they get to the reception and we always kind of alcohol to get involved in so we can crash them all together and get reaction like I get David is tightly like loving highly the parents agreement tera Totally oblivious, let's check in with her and see what she thinks of the big day. All these family were like happy for me. Well, it was nice where they should be checking with it should be checking with the family. Here's what the family had to say This is not his usual type for a long term relationship. I think it's definitely got his work and the tragic music in the background as well. I think I think what I'm thinking was has. she been baptized. That seems to be the big question. She's okay and so we get into the reception and she is literally cramping on a table. Yeah, well, beat boxing and wrapping Yeah. and then she like decides you know what she was. She was a bullying boy and yes she was and then she finds out that David's dad's a police officer, and she says you know what he's a police officer. I'm a reformed drug addict and I just think we've got a lot to bond over. obviously that's fantastic. so he's arrested method. It's perfect. We're basically the same like the same just different sides of the same coin. There's so much to talk about. so this thing that David has the look of a guy at a nightclub at Two AM in the morning. he goes, you know what screw this. I don't care what happened at this point in the chances. I'm getting laid right and he's just like he's raised one gold right. He is just. Touch of I'm getting laid for the first time I actually cuz that's a thing like so heavily religious has he had sex before well cuz he's seen his parents. I don't think he has yeah no, but that was surely yes, he said to them, you know it's like being married, 3030 - one well he's been baptized, said. No. So this is the thing I mean Baptist. I'm Jewish be baptized. I've been baptized. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. but look so this is the things that has he had sex or not before the dad pulls him aside and he actually kinda Opinion he has the sex talk, but I want you guys opinion on this take a listen. Thank your time and get to know before you start. Going into is that it is going in deeper Catholic use of optimism for I don't know I was told just a tip, but I just what I heard from that is just just keep things to some light photos right until we get to know her right. Okay also did you guys catch cuz we were talking and drinking and eating chips a lot. I think you guys missed the the altercation between them were like the The mom kind of half tries like she stopped solving a little bit to talk to Hailey, but then highly rolls up and just blatantly offends them. Hello. Also she talk. A lot she did she was loud and I feel like she wasn't really hearing the parents concerns and I would have like to hear a bit more about their concerns. I would like to have a whole episode about their concerns. Actually, I really like the groom parents, but I just I think there's a Green parent in all of us who's just weeping at the choices. Our loved ones have made. that's it no this we got okay. So this is my tech you see we got wrong. Alright. Hailey is Stripper hot right, which is absolutely cuz she's Super proud of the body by the way she should be. Who's the shot the shoulders are constantly back? Yeah, you know and that little there was a little snippet when she was getting ready and she was wearing like a little teddy before she got on the bed and she had a silky and she was sort of on the bed with one leg that was fabulous. even before that, she's she's practiced. That part. she has like I mean, as we all have. Yeah like at the Playboy Mansion, I have imagined that's all the bunnies sit on their bed. But even before that with the wedding dress, she walked up to the floor length mirror. I know you guys didn't see that she walked up the full length road with the shoulders. She standard. I self dead dead in the eye and she said I'm in or of myself and here's where I can't look at what is the tattoo on the back actually sad I I'm convinced it says something like you maybe in the gutter, but you can look up and I bet her fit fluency of friends like shared that is like a meme tile on her Instagram and that's like a way of life now hashtag. She's she's happy. She's reformed drug addict. Yeah. she's having great sex with this guy. Yeah. David, right, yes. Having you know, she's lovely, she's she's a reality TV star. I think if the business they caught picking, yeah you totally and we shouldn't be ashamed that look I said it on Monday night, but it's the new Australian Dream getting on this show. Absolutely you know, Yeah. Hey. Also I really like okay. so Haley was my favorite contestant, but I never anticipated that someone else could steal the thunder you know and that is to be sweetie to be from. what's what was the other wedding? It was yeah. we're not forget the other way. let's just talk about the. Look there's a few things I didn't even want to talk about this because it seemed like produces which is trying to create drama like Chris is just a dose style man and so there was like one sideways look from him and they tried to paint it like he wasn't into her. I don't wanna play into that, but we do need to talk about Vanessa's insecurities. She's letting her like skin kind of dictate who she is as a person and it's just like I looked at her and she's a really attractive woman and yet all she could do was draw attention to like let me tell you one thing about being a woman right. We all have flaws. I know you probably can't see it. Flawless look under the severe downloading he looks like heaven carry the light is great, but it's okay. We're going to drink but I wanna sleep with James actually fuck everyone, but the thing is the aim as a woman is to draw attention away from your floors. so you wanted to deflect attention. I'm not gonna tell you what my floors are because I don't want you to notice. I can't I just like and the thing is poor. Vanessa just keep going on and on like every five minutes you know here. I'm getting married and I have bad skin. Yeah. he's probably not into me. Cuz I have bad skin, I've always wanted to have a partnership, but I'm not sure I came because I have bad skin. I wouldn't have noticed. I know none of us would have none of us. No that guy has ever noticed that when there is the option of cleavage and legs and rich men like bombs, Oh, yeah, you know they they they do. They see boobs. They see bomb. They see legs like good to go. Let's see vagina up, but I don't see a vagina like you know. it's certainly not at a wedding, but they're not gonna be seeing the vagina We we go to different weddings but anyway the. I don't think Chris said, but she was really fixated on. I know I know and she was like you know what the only reason I'm here is because I'm so confident because of my maid of honor to the and that's where we met and was wearing a wig. Do you remember when Victoria Beckham now this is pretty nice but stay with me. Victoria Beckham moved to LA with David like 10 years ago, and they did that one episode Daca right and she cut her hair. She bleached her hair and cut it into this asymmetrical Bob. I mean that's the week that was wearing so bold look. I just thought you were. James has messed up my to be big so this is okay. So look the reason this episode started a little bit late. We've started like 20 minutes late tonight on Facebook live and it's because we almost had a two be interviewing the camera you stuff this up. no idea. I had to be no okay. so we did and I was holding the screw. you need damn no idea. I got you DM. I'm sorry. I found her an instant him and him and what was his handle sorry it was like something like between two and two is clearly. What happened Breakout stock your team ruin this. I message to be Yeah. I did this whole. Hey how you doing to be mister how you doing anything happening and then you know I was like hey, I'm doing this show tonight and I said, Oh, wow. What's the show about and then your team takes over James because we were meant to go live on air on Facebook and and I was yelling at you going throw the team out to the producer. give them your password. It's called Foreplay right, it's called Foreplay. You know you just go straight in no education. I didn't want you to hate you mommy like politic political tactics on him. I was about to get to be on the show and I was about to get too busy look and the thing is it's in my business called Pauling. The Electric and I just say what was going on behind the scenes as we were watching the show Yeah. and I come, which one if you said it was like, wouldn't it be great If every single cut to be was in a different way, I know if that wasn't no one addressed it. No one does it. Maybe then just have the weed like it's slightly different angles. Yeah he shot and by the end. It like to be drunk and the wigs on backwards. And okay, so like we've I've just got a message. We still haven't been able to get a hold of to be, but the thing is no way that I held this show up as long as I could like I felt like lease sales before like 730 starts when they're trying to get the PM and like the Pam's dot com and let me only sales are exactly the same as my PM you guys screw this up. No, I had to be. I was floating. We had this back and forth. No. I'm sorry. I saw those messages. you had two messages. Thank you. That's not your thing and the thing is from a dope Queen like. Encore. so my my husband made a very disastrous first meeting with my parents and he thought that he would make it up to them by saying ago drive you to my brothers engagement party. so that was like 1970 - four baby poop, Brown Ford failing so chic and so we've got to the engagement party and there was a gravel driveway and grab a carpet was this an The Scaffold scout that's like an hour so we don't have to pay for a run an hour so with no alcohol anyone in the community can use it. Yeah, That's right. so you're pulling gravel gravel and then my my father says to my husband. oh look there's grab you better do a burnout and so my husband's like I have to tell and just and so he pulls one half it up. Oh my God you're still married now we are. And so how did you so your parents are in the back of this in the back of his comment? was it sorry the failing failing failing and also have glance back and my parents are in the backseat screaming. Yeah and my husband just thought that having a great time. so they're screaming that eczema and yeah, we sort of emerge from this dust cloud with my dad in his chest and and then my brother. guys back yeah he is he is inside you guys ever like so when you go in and you like you are the guys party like what's the tension like like your parents still little bit on show time and then we had a of course there was a received that information that why they should have said thank you when I reach other we did not receive the The way we should have, I think when James verse the speech, he has a very different interpretation that I assumed the rest of us. have I only date with you Sam. It sounds very traditional, Yeah and my husband said. It's not why I'm going with the pants right now, where in Australia was is where was this Where was the scatter? This is in good old move back. You know more about none of us. Yeah look you know what the fair line and the Scout Hall. I just kind of I got. I got the picture of the kind of place that you were talking. Yeah. Christine. That's hilarious. It was very funny, it was it was visually funnier than I'm telling it. I'm sorry about that. it was people it was. It was a light idea. What can I say? no? I love it? Christina Have you been watching it have you been watching right at first sight this week. I have I have what what are you thoughts? What are you thinking? What do you think of highly tonight? We loved her. Oh she's hilarious. but I just can't wait to look in the back stepping start. That's okay. So this is the thing I know I think it's going on here. Yeah. This is a real one right like her and David seemed like cuz Dave is like. Struck with her yeah, I didn't use the first way There's another word I was kinda used. Yeah for the words gonna wear off and when when mom and dad come in this year, no no no, I think she's no no. I think he's finding God through her and he's pointing look. I really the thing is I really okay. So maybe you'll agree with me Christine but I really want the fit fluency who turned around Hailey. I want to be no, but I want I want the. I want to fit fluency to get involved in Canada Council, these two highly and David, but then I also want to be to come on board as the fourth expert. Yeah and just appear on the couch at Sunday night, commitment ceremonies counseling each other through all of a sudden tube gets his own show. Yup, Yup, Yup and the Fbi for the straight you did that got someone who has talked to beyond Instagram in depth. There was one photo that you were really taken. No two babies got like this seven times two S on his leg. Yeah of like assault Rifles and Angelina Jolie I was gonna say there's nothing says to me. Hey, I wanna shoot someone then seeing a picture of Angelina Jolie Fierce yet to be the hatred. Yes, I think I definitely I think the future is coming. I think maybe the footprints I can do some like personal training. We have the couples who are struggling and they can come together through exercise. Absolutely Christine Thanks so much for calling in and sharing that story. If anyone wants to join and you can comment below on the Facebook stream hit me up on the socials at Hello James we are on Twitter. Facebook but carry I like where you're going with that and don't you guys think so a lot of reality TV started this week. We got MKS, which is like dead in the water. 400000 people are watching it have you been following the numbers a survivor, but are you noticing that all the shows are starting to basically become the same so everything they are the MKC is like trying to like pull the drummer away from Married at First Sight by doing their own drunk and dinner parties. I'm pretty sure on survivor. They're probably gonna have like drunken survivor like camp nights where they have coconut cocktails, one of those one of those broader. Throw a coconut at one of the other ones, it's gonna be exactly like Married at First Sight or any minute. This gonna be six if I've ever seen, I mean some of those people are very very attractive is they never six on survival. There's been some suspension application huddling where survivors still on a Beach. I gotta say I haven't watched it. It's still on the Beach. Oh, I don't know you don't know it because we were talking about sex on the Beach before I'm just saying it's kind of overrated. So it's probably why we don't see much sex on the Beach on survivor. I think I said that like it's. They said they the kind of thing you know digging holes to it. It's not a very sexy time, but I think it will happen eventually, but I do think we can bring them all together. Instead of the one show save time what I like a hundred percent. we could like what we need to do is get all the maths couple. Yeah, like onto the Survivor Island right and then we get the fit Florence that's called Lord of the flies. We sort of combine it with the biggest loser thing as well because footprints is gonna whip them on to shape you Michelle Bridges. Again and they're gonna lose weight anyway cuz it's survivor and they're not being fit right, but then the MKC people come in and they cook them a meal right and they're all starving so they are and they're only given three ingredients. That's right there in the in the surprise box they have to get when they win immunity. Yeah and they're all starving. So whatever the food is they just think it's fantastic so they eat it and so nobody's kind of crying so they have to create drama. otherwise what he's saying is they're hungry. They have food and they have sex. Yeah, I would watch that and the thing is as well. It's called. Sad definitely has like a no, he died. Look you've yeah. you've got like a one note brain Sam dusty, but I do maybe it can be celebrity point because we'll be able to wipe out I'm a celebrity, get me out of here which you were on because I feel like on Channel 10. We just went from the jungle to a campsite and like we've just never left anywhere. so what we can do to bring on the celebrate they cannot Wait T shirts. Yes with that, like you know, hashtags celebs Sam and that's it. That's really well. I'm not sure. Nothing there we go and we kind of achieve our goal. Oh that the MKX people can feed them really disgusting food, but like but not bets. obviously because of oh my God are you going topical? Are you going typical? No? no no no no. that's the thing you can't talk about anything anymore. I do have to say though speaking about things, we gotta you know that people get up in arms about, but you know we've got an A sexual woman who was rejected from Married at First Sight. Her name is McCall Nicole She reached out over the last few days. We put the call out on Facebook. Nicole Hay hey. Nicole You've said you applied for Meredith First sight You went through the interview process. You will ghosted by producers and when I was chatting to you, you did say that you you hold ask me anything sessions. you know, ask me anything with a sexual way you live in the town that you live in towns, folk come and ask questions. you said. No question is stupid. No question is too ignorant. You wanna answer people's questions but first up. I just wanna know what was your experience like I'm going through the ringer trying to get on married at first sight, It was really. Positive so they did a telephone interview and it was it flowed really well and they said great. we're gonna do a Skype interview in a couple of weeks and did that that's a nice way of saying we wanna see. Yeah. that's right. we wanted to describe thing is their way of saying. yeah. that's that's oh. yeah, then you have to check out the meat and can you be in a bikini When you do the sky. Do you play? Yeah, you know I probably would have gotten through if I did that. but no, I had a pretty dress on and so I like with their questions kind of probing, do you think and okay, So were they aware of the sexuality things straight up? they were because. The initial process is writing in about yourself. you feel like the application form and the probe you with any questions about sort of that side of your life. they they did they it's it's been a whole journey trying to sort of so you just said journey. You should definitely be married. If you believe the lingo down Pat, I should have got cats as well. so apparently that's what's going on this season. Sorry. How many cats no cats cats tattoos look, I think he said cats because at the lesbian household the other night we saw like a ton of cats cats. That's why I never have any sleeve. Can I just say tattoos of a shock and Angelina Jolie who doesn't know it's 2020? What kind of it really trying to sexual sexual saying a friend? okay. So I identify as Democrats actually, yeah, okay. So is there a difference between Demi sexual and sexual? Yeah. So it's like there's a there's a spectrum. so you'll go from people who are sexually adverse to to people who are demise sexual gray sexual and it's been adopted and supported by the LGBTQ community and that's now why they're at the end of it. Yeah and it just means like for me in order to experience that I need. National bond or relationship with the person so you need to activate maintain a monogamous relationship so you still have sex. Yeah and like how often do you have sex like is that you say that you need to feel a connection? Does that connection come about easily or frequently? neither okay. So like a first second and third date with me would be as any client that as a Mass wedding night in the Hollywood, Oh well played sing. Sing and so like when you like if you're at a bar like I think you know carry you know Sam you guys are single too like we're all about and you see a guy or a girl. They really take your you think damn they're pretty cute like you would have that feeling of attraction pretty instantly, but Nicole you don't feel that do you 90 look. I've sat in a bar as an example, having a drink with girls and I'm like. Oh my God that guy is hot. You know I do like Oh yeah invite them over like 34 hour. And then maybe I might have another conversation within again right. I don't think it take it like unusual. I think that's I think a lot of women need an emotional connection to to have a sexual relationship with summer and they do so do you find yourself feeling more attracted to somebody as you get to know them and as you like them as a person is that is that what it says, Yeah, I can find people attack like I can easily develop an emotional relationship to other people, but the sexual arousal where you know having sex. Enjoy it while you're actually feeling something Yeah and connecting with them like I guess sexually yeah not there unless I really really trust the person that they have that emotional connection. I mean in camper here we have an sexual community support group ACT aces and one of the lovely girls cat she put together a report supporting facts because basically I'm just providing like she basically says it's only recently been recognized in Syria. it's like the standard opinion within the community that sexuality has always existed the same way by sexuality and transmission always existed. Yeah. Well, I heard that there was some controversy in the LGBTQ community over whether to accept their sexuality as one of the categories is that is that right? did I get that right? And if so, like why I? I'm probably not the best person to answer why I'm like tonight. I'm speaking based on my experience and I've got I've got some facts out to them and said what if people ask me infectious actually information, but you can hit up the ATM aces and ask questions join the support group even if you're outside, they can connect you to any support group in your area too, But look you know what for me with the accusatory tone aimed at those identifying as. Sexual like you know, we all know that common terms of being approved tees playing hard to get or it's been start with pretty colorful way to try and identify as male references. But because I was a woman, I haven't had getting her to being a sexual vote for any listeners out there. It will be interesting to read any comments later from like a mouth point of view on sexuality or being on the spectrum. Can I do so the actual process through maps cuz I'm obsessed with this process. Attends. Why did you why did you think? can I answer? I wanna be famous? No. I wanna go. I've got a feeling. I've got a theory and correct me if I'm wrong but look I feel like you wanted to kinda challenge the experts a little bit and you kind of what I wanted to end tag them with something they've never seen before and probably don't know much about AM. I right? Yeah. Oh look you pretty spot on there. I mean I am a campaign and we asked favorite outsourcing cast right look you know that and I was pretty unsuccessful at matching myself with the right partner in crime. I'm a celebrant and it's. Like I'll always be the celebrate and never buy. I'm in my forties. I've spent the last 10 years juggling a series of health issues and raising two kids as a single mom and the men that I was meeting, I I honestly would categorize Categorized as rescue boyfriend right men who recently separated and I need to know that category, but we're too caught up with it to be emotionally available. Yeah. Hey. Nicole Yeah. someone needs to really call out those relationship expert. The advice dishing out yeah, Hey Nicole when I told Sam Dusty he's just ducked out of the studio to see whether he can slide into a tube DMC. But he said he wanted to ask you a question and I don't reckon. He was brave enough, but you said that no question was you know trust you, but this will be the final one, but I think it's a big one that some people ask do I sexual people watch porn. I guess the main ways on the spectrum. yes, yeah. absolutely done where you gonna watch you know if your you know it's actually get around and you know have you don't have around um so why not yeah he doesn't apart from that I wanna make sure I understand understand it so you're saying that there is a spectrum in some people who are sexual sexually so they really don't ever want to have sex but sound like you Interest in having sex, but it has to be very specific conditions, so you have to be you have to feel safe with the person that makes sense. Yeah. It's not really even about love like that's a whole another or an intimate emotional connection. It's gonna be and I feel like a big part of that is probably just the vulnerability. you've got to know someone enough to know their vulnerabilities and then you feel like you're really connecting Hannah yet no, I was just gonna quickly face you know I could get that emotional connection within 40 - eight hours, but sometimes it could take five weeks by case and I haven't been goes to buy the mess so I feel you sister and just hang in there yeah they are not gonna message thanks so much for getting in touch and sharing that story and I guys was rejected by mass producers but we also gonna wanna do better looking around and find out who else was rejected we wanna did the reject hashtag they should be enough That maybe you're a bridesmaid rejected it was yeah well, that's it. You know. let me get rejected is pretty much every wedding after you alright look maybe you've been through the interview process. Maybe you got through the very final stage. Whatever it is we wanna hear from you and if you think you got a theory about why you were were rejected. That's what we're really kinda particularly interested in. I mean all the shows they show like you know this very quick montage of 15000 people by I mean 15 and that's it exactly 15000 people apply. Meredith First sight We wanna know we wanna dig through that part 2000 people applied and they fuck up sticking with Howie. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I'll respect that look we wanna pick through the scrap paper like disease Diabetes and King's Cross. Hey, Whoa Whoa. And I mean that just because she's a recovering drug addict doesn't mean I've done was I said way the disease diabetes is being through that scrap you can get in touch vouchers where the vouchers comment below in the Facebook live stream or hit me up. 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