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Ask the Pastor: When can a woman trust a man when he says, “I love you?”

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1.  When can a woman trust a man when he says, “I love you?”

                                                            Truth

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;…  Proverbs 31:30a-b


A woman must measure what true love is by the truth of God’s word.  A lot of men and women will tell you what they think you would like to here to take advantage of the way they make you feel.  That is why the bible says, “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting.”  In my book, “How To Become a Good Thing” I talk about Mr. Charisma:


Mr. Charisma is suave, charming, romantic, and utterly fascinating.   He easily says exactly what you want to hear.  Perhaps, it is what you have longed to hear for years.  He has a way of listening to what you say and using it against you to tell you what you want to hear.  In the book, “Avoiding Mr. Wrong”, he is known as  Mr. Wonderful, “He can con (charm) the fuzz off a peach, is very smooth, and can talk his way out of anything.  However, Mr. Charisma is too good to be true.  Run don’t walk from this man.


You can only trust an l love you when it is reflective of God’s word.  In 1 Cor. 13:4-13 it says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails…And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love


 When does he say, “I love you?”  Is it right before he is trying to get you to do something for him?  Does he say, “I love you” right before he tries to get you to compromise your biblical belief to save sex for marriage?  Does he say, “l love you” during or after he has got you to compromise your biblical belief to save sex for marriage?  Does he say, “l love you” right before he asks you for a loan or to borrow your car? Does he say, “l love you” right after he has slap you in the face or after he has beat you down physically with his words or hands or both?  You can only trust an “l love you” after you have seen the actions that go before and after these words.  In my first book, “How to Choose a Worthy Mate” I wrote:

The Greek word used for love in this passage (1 Cor. 13) is agape. Agape’s definition is totally unselfish love that has the capacity to give and keep on giving without expecting in return.  The Rev. Raoul Plus, S.J. describes the agape element of love as follows:  “Supernatural (Agape) love takes away one thing only from natural and spontaneous love - selfishness, the arch-enemy of love . . . . Supernatural love in us seeks to love in the manner and according to the desire of God.”


Therefore, only a true Christian man of God can tell a true Christian woman of God he loves her and mean it.   He will be capable of loving you in a manner and according to the desire of God.  Now that is true love!  You can only trust a “I love you” as true love when it doesn’t have any selfish intent.



 

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