How do you know when you have met the right one?
- How do you know when you have met the right one?
5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.[a] Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV
The first step to knowing if you have met the right person is to know what you want in a mate. Before you meet any one be in prayer and fasting or acknowledging God. Dr. Neil Clack Warren has a book entitled, “Two Dates Or Less,” that will lead you through an exercise that will help you to identify the character you are looking for in a mate.
In this book you will have to identify the top ten characteristics you are looking for in a mate. Warren refers to these characteristics as a “must haves” list. What’s different about Dr. Warren approach is that he will take you through an exercise that will have you list your top ten “can’t stand” list. This exercise will help you to realize that the person you end up with will not be perfect. Therefore, you chose what you can live with and can’t live without. This book is a must read for those who want to be married.
After you have gone through this exercise, begin to pray over this list daily. After prayer, you will have to be committed to waiting on God. You have to be committed to not compromising. Trust in the Lord with all you heart for a mate and lean not to your own understanding. If it is God’s will for you to marry, He will answer your prayers. When God sends a person with the characteristics that you are looking for, you will know because you have prayed. I do not teach or believe that God has only one person in this world that would be right for you. I believe that there are many people with the characteristics that you like and are automatically drawn to. When you marry, that person becomes “the one” ideally until death do you part.
If you do loose your mate, you are freed up to love someone else. Paul wrote Timothy in 1 Timothy 5:14 to advise the widows, “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.” Paul did not say that your decease mate was the one and you shall never marry again. Therefore, you chose “the one” when you marry. Consequently, it is very important for you to identify your “must haves” and “can’t stand” list. As you pray over your list you will develop an uncanny ability to hone in on those positive and negative characteristics.
This also will help those of us who are automatically draw to people who are not in our best interest. I call these kinds of attractions, “fatal attractions” in my first book. If you do have fatal attractions every time you pray you will be praying again fatal attractions. If this is of interests to you please pick-up a copy of my first book, “How to Choose a Worthy Mate and Find True Love.” (Download a free copy on my website: www.HearGodsWordatBethlehem.com . Click the Books tap.) The choice for a mate is the second most important decision of your life. After you go through these exercises, “Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4.