Today the lead singer of Linkin Park Chester Bennington took his own life on the birthday of his dear friend Chris Cornell who committed suicide after his last concert in Detroit in May of this year. They both struggled with addiction. Addiction, depression and anxiety can affect anyone regardless of status or wealth. It is not uncommon for people to commit suicide on anniversaries. Chester was very open about his addiction to drugs and alcohol, his history of suicidal thinki...ng and the abuse he suffered as a child by an older male. Linkin Park's music got me through many difficult times and for that I am forever indebted. He leaves behind a wife and 6 children. If you have a moment, please join me in sending his family as much love and light as you can. If you or someone you know are in crisis and contemplating suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255.
The lyrics from the title track from their latest album One More Light are both profound and prophetic. "If they say who cares if one more light goes out in the sky of a million stars....who cares when someone's time runs out if a moment is all we are....who cares if one more light goes out. Well I do." Today we lost a bright light and I care that his time ran out. Below is a video to this beautiful song. I lost a friend this past year to addiction and suicide. As his friend, his light shined the brightest of all and my love for him only grows with time. I miss you brother. Alcohol and other habit forming drugs are the devil in disguise. May all beings who are suffering be free from suffering. May those who feel hopeless, see the impermanent nature of suffering and realize that there are resources available to get help.
We wanted to send our thoughts and prayers to the victims of today's tragic shooting in DC at the baseball field. Regardless of one's political persuasion all human life has inherent value. We need to unite as a country and recognize that good people can have political differences, but violence is not the answer.
As humans we tend to run from obstacles, pain and challenges, but you need to understand that it is the difficulties in life that prepare us to go to the next level.
The show 13 Reasons Why has gotten a lot of buzz. Below are 13 Reasons Why Not.
1. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
2. Good psychological help is available and treatments for depression and related conditions work very well.
3. Families often do not ever fully recover from suicide.
4. Suicide can have negative multi-generational impacts on families....
5. Many suicide attempts fail and people end up with permanent medical problems in addition to the psychological problems they are already struggling with.
6. You are not a burden. People are willing to and want to help. They can't read your mind though, so you need to be willing to open up to family, friends or a psychologist if you are having these thoughts.
7. While suffering is part of life, there is also much joy and many wonderful people and experiences that you will miss out on.
8. It is often an impulsive act. Research shows that survivors of suicide attempts generally report having the immediate thought, "What have I done?"
9. Most problems have solutions. When we are depressed, we filter things through a negative lens and we are not seeing things objectively (i.e., things often appear worse than they are).
10. It not only negatively impact families, but friends as well.
11. It is possible that your suicide might inspire somebody else to give up and model your behavior.
12. You are stronger and more resilient than you think you are and you do not have to let other peoples' opinions define or influence how you feel about yourself.
13. Seeking help is not only compassionate for the people that love and care about you and, there are people that love you, but it is also an expression of love and caring for yourself.
New research sheds light on the significant increase in child and adolescent hospitalizations due to suicidal ideation, attempts or threats. Based on my clinical observations, my patients who are seeking treatment for OCD and anxiety are reporting to me that they are not getting evidenced-based care. They are simply getting talk therapy, which has numerous benefits, but if we really want to tackle anxiety (the problem of our time), we need to start training providers to use interventions that have empirical support. You can best protect yourself and save yourself a lot of aggravation by being an informed consumer of psychological services and advocating for the treatment that you need.
Many mental health providers claim to treat OCD, but they lack the training, expertise and educational background to properly treat this disorder. I encourage you to be an informed consumer and verify that they actually use evidenced-based methods such exposure and response prevention (ERP). If they are not familiar with ERP and/or are unable to discuss it with a great deal of proficiency, keep looking to find a provider who can truly help you manage this debilitating condition.
"The difference between a champion and someone who is forgotten is that a champion shows up. That is the only thing. Every day shows up. Gives him [or herself] a chance to make a difference. Because success doesn't know these things about cold or early or tired. It just knows if you showed up or not." -Greg Plitt
In today's society, people casually say they are "so OCD" because they are a neat freak, have a few quirks, etc. In reality, OCD is a very broad and functionally impairing condition. It is 1 of the top 10 causes of disability worldwide and is often quite serious.
Gratitude-I just wanted to say thank you to all of the wonderful patients who have entrusted me with their care since moving back to Michigan and the continued loyalty and support that I have received from my Florida patients. Without you, all of the great things that are happening would not be possible. I also want to give a special thanks to my office manager and wife Jenny for her love and support and for providing such a welcoming environment to our patients. Moreover, I want to thank my mother for always stepping up and assisting where she can and my daughter Alex for being such a great person and mother to our grandson Jude. Lastly, I want to thank my mentor, colleague and friend Dr. Eric Storch who is such a great example of an exemplary psychologist who helped me to raise my own expectations of what is possible.