MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK! !!!!!!
I used to interpret the saying "Marriage is not for small boys" to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mento...r that has been in marriage for 47 years.
I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage? Beaming, she retorted; My son, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that
You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable
So, I married without high expectations from my husband but simply to make him happy always. Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first to get up from bed and the last to go back to bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them, prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot water for him to bath. I iron his clothes he would take to work, kiss him and wish him the best in his daily endeavours
I asked my old woman, so then what does the man do in return? She laughed all heart and hearty and replied; You see, this is the mistake you young ones make in marriage.
YOU DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE AND EXPECT SAME REWARD FROM HIM OR HER, THIS IS WRONG!
When it becomes your attitude to only please your husband or wife always, the other person responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn't rattle
She continued, my son, never carry "how rich or poor your family is" into marriage. After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman
Love only compels/leads would-be #couples into #marriage but it doesn't sustain marriage. Rather, understanding, patience, communication and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage. High expectations are the symptoms of divorce in marriages
Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a mother, a business partner, God fearing person etc. You cannot get all your expectations
Belief lifts your Talent, Focus directs your Talent, Preparation positions your Talent, Practice sharpens your Talent, Perseverance sustains your Talent, and Ch...aracter protects your Talent... Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet God feeds them (Matt 6:26) Take careful note: the birds don’t worry, but they do work. Birds don’t just sit with open mouths, expecting God to fill them.
In business, in politics, and in life, most of us are beneficiaries of the outcomes we have contributed to. Our station in life cannot, or at least should not, ...be blamed on our parents, our teachers, our pastors, our government, or our society - it’s largely based on the choices we make, and the attitudes we adopt.
People have overcome poverty, drug addiction, incarceration, abuse, divorce, mental illness, victimization, and virtually every challenge known to man. Life is full of examples of the uneducated, the mentally and physically challenged, people born into war-torn impoverished backgrounds, who could have complained about life being unfair, but who instead chose a different path – they chose to overcome the odds and to leave the world better than they found it. Regardless of the challenges they faced, they had the character to choose contribution over complaint.
I don’t dispute that challenges exist. I don’t even dispute that many have an uphill battle due to the severity of the challenges they face. What I vehemently dispute is attempting to regulate, adjudicate, or legislate fairness somehow solves the world’s problems. Mandates don’t create fairness, but people’s desire and determination can work around or overcome most life challenges.
Before you say amen!
Now let’s begin, say;
1. O Lord, let me receive Your divine mercy and favour, in the name of Jesus....
2. O Lord, make a way for me in all endevour in the name of Jesus.
3. Every power that have been working against my progress in life, as a result this prayer fall down and die, in the name of Jesus.
4. By Your zeal O God of performance, carry out Your strange work and Your strange act in my life and surprise me greatly, in the name of Jesus.(Isa 28:21b)
5. God of new beginning, do a new thing in my life, and let every eye see it, in the name of Jesus
So shall it be in Jesus name, AMEN