#MyChatWithHer

Facebook Lady (FL): Hello David

David Bondze (DB): Hi. How are you doing?

FL: Good! How are you?

DB: I am doing alright, thanks.

FL: I want to share my story: why I feel blessed to be married to my husband.

DB: Oh, nice.

FL: But I don’t want my picture shared

DB: Gurrrl, this series comes with pictures ooo.

FL: Hmmmm. Ok. You can share my picture.

DB: Thanks. How old are you?

FL: 39

DB: And, how long have you been married?

FL: Eight ( years

DB: I see. Kids?

FL: Three (3): Two (2) boys One (1) girl.

DB: I thank GOD!

FL: Yes. They are good kids.

DB: How did you meet your husband?

FL: We met at Circle

DB: Which Circle?

FL: Lol! Circle-Circle! Lol!

DB: Mahama Circle?

FL: Yes. But it hadn’t been decorated.

DB: Okay

FL: I had a boyfriend then. We had dated for three years, and were planning on getting married. So I called my boyfriend after work to check on him. He told me he was sleeping, because he had an early work assignment. We had a rule that, ‘no surprise visits’ and we had both adhered to it for years. But that day, I didn’t know what came over me; I felt like paying him a surprise visit. It was around 6:45 PM.

DB: Lol!

FL: He wasn’t home.

DB: I guessed right

FL: But had another woman in his house. She was pregnant for him.

DB: How did you know it was his? She could have been his sister.

FL: She wasn’t. Before he called to explain and apologize, he had lied about being asleep. He’s married to her now, and still calls and texts - telling me I am his true love.

DB: Smh!

FL: You guys are f**ked up, you know?

DB: I know!

FL: Hmmm!

DB: How did you meet your husband?

FL: I got robbed when I got to Circle. Some guy snatched my bag, and then passed it around to different guys amidst the crowd.

DB: Oh, no!

FL: Yes. And I stood at Circle, till about, 11:15 PM, hoping to see a familiar face to sort me out with my fare back home.

DB: Where were you staying then?

FL: Nsawam.

DB: Boi!

FL: My husband was driving through, when he stopped to ask me a question

DB: I see

FL: He probably mistook me for an Ashawo.

DB: Lol! Why, you looked like one in your office dress?

FL: No. But I was in a tight skirt and a colorful, tight, decent blouse

DB: Smh

FL: I narrated my ordeal at circle to him, and then he gave me cash. He drove off, but returned after a minute. He asked me to walk with him to his car. He drove me home that evening.

DB: Very kind of him.

FL: Yes. And he kept picking me from work, every evening to my house, till I accepted his proposal to date me – two months later.

DB: How did you get over your then boyfriend?

FL: I got over him

DB: In two months?

FL: Dave, it’s that simple. In this life, it is very necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So I let him go. I tied no weight to my ankles.

DB: I see

FL: I didn’t hate him. I was disappointed, of course, but never engraved his actions upon my heart.

DB: What about him did you find attractive?

FL: His kindness, and care. He cared about me.

DB: Care is important

FL: Yes

DB: How did your husband propose marriage?

FL: He just asked me to marry him one day, while driving me home.

DB: Lol!

FL: Lol!

DB: And, how does being married to him feel like?

FL: Lol! HEAVEN.

DB: I’m happy to know

FL: Thanks

DB: And, sex?

FL: Sex used to be great. It really did used to be great

DB: Why, what’s happening now?

FL: Well, he claims he’s no longer in the mood. Lol!

DB: I see. How old is he?

FL: 42

DB: 42 and he’s not in the mood? It doesn’t make sense. 40+ is the new 25

FL: Lol!

DB: I am serious

FL: How do you know?

DB: I have friends. Male friends in that age bracket, and they tell me how they are driving their wives crazy with sex.

FL: Hmmm! Because he used to want sex all the time. I’m also surprised

DB: I see

FL: A few weeks ago, I initiated sex, and he was trying to avoid me. When he finally gave in, he used rubber

DB: As in, condom?

FL: Yes

DB: When was this?

FL: Three weeks ago

DB: When did his sudden loss of appetite for sex start?

FL: Two months ago, I think

DB: And, how many times have you had sex, since?

FL: Once

DB: Get tested

FL: He says his libido isn’t as active as his youthful days – so I should try to understand him

DB: Get tested

FL: Can you believe it? Now that I have gotten used to his sexual cravings and would want to have a lot more sex

DB: GET TESTED

FL: I should get tested? For what?

DB: STI’s

FL: Lol!

DB: Get tested!

FL: Lol! Dave, why are you making me ‘Lol’ this evening?

=================================
I discontinued the chat – since Monday, until she reached out to me this morning
=================================

FL: Hello Dave

DB: Hello. How are you doing?

FL: I got tested

DB: Okay?

FL: I’ve been infected

DB: Something treatable?

FL: Antiretroviral drugs treatable

DB: No!

FL: I don’t understand this. I haven’t been with any other man since I first met him at Circle

DB: Have you discussed it with your husband?

FL: Not yet. I don’t know how to tell him

DB: But he knows

FL: No, he doesn’t

DB: SMH!

FL: You think he knows?

DB: He used CONDOM with/on you, his wife. Gurrrl, THINK!

FL: Dave, can we chat later, please?

DB: Yes please. If you would need a clinical psychologist, I can recommend one. Don’t hesitate to get back to me, ok?

Ещё