Dr. Weiss also says there are four phases of sexual communication:
So understanding how your partner likes to discuss setting up your love space - the sexual environment - would be similar to how they might communicate their preferences during the actual lovemaking session.
Here is an example of someone whose Sex Language is Patience through each of the four phases of sex:
"I look forward to these few hours to show you how much I truly love you." (Sexual Environment communication)
"I'll put the kids to bed tonight so we have more time together for lovemaking." (Invitation)
"Don't rush. I want to enjoy you longer." (Sex Act)
"You're like a great meal. It takes time to savor you sexually. That was amazing!"
What I really want you to understand here is that there are all these different ways to express yourself to your partner when it comes to sex.
There are these different areas of perspective - like being slow and patient, or appreciating the amazing sex you have together - and there are different times during the cycle of lovemaking where you can communicate in different ways.
“The master of the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He simply pursues his vision of excellence in whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him, he is always doing both.”