A long time awaiting, but here is our animation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPUNPQhxqXw
Please watch, like, and share. Remember, you are NOT alone.
Here is the blog post we submitted for our assignment. Feel free to read if you are interested in the psychology we used for making our animation.
If your friend confides in you or is showing signs they are not okay, don't take it all on yourself. Remember that you are not alone and you cannot take everything on yourself.
They say in aeroplanes that if you need to use the breathing masks in an emergency, then you shouldn't help anyone with their mask until you have first put on your own. Even if your child is next to you. It's the same for helping people with thoughts and urges. If you are not okay, you can't help othe...rs. You need to look after yourself first or you'll crash.
Remember, you're not alone.
The best place for a free cuppa and someone to talk to without them telling you what to do: Warwick nightline - http://warwick.nightline.ac.uk/
For a someone to talk to at any hour of day or night: Samaritains - http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us?
For a suicide specific charity: Papyrus: https://www.papyrus-uk.org/
Keep safe. Make a Safety Plan.
A safety plan is designed to stop you from acting on any suicidal thoughts or urges, and provides details of what to do and where to seek help if you find yourself at crisis point. It is best written at a time when suicidal impulses are low, and may be useful to share with a loved one who knows how to support you.
Include the following sections:...
* Triggers & warning signs - what makes you feel overwhelmed? Try to notice any patterns in your thinking, or situations that may elicit suicidal ideation.
* Making my environment safer - try to place a barrier between yourself and things that can be used to cause harm. For instance, if you feel at risk of physically hurting yourself (e.g: cutting or over-dosing), give any materials that act as a means of achieving this to someone who you can trust, who can keep these out of reach.
* What can I do right now to keep me safe? - Keep a list of distraction and coping techniques to hand, so you can refer to these when you are feeling suicidal.
* My reasons for living - this section can include anything you like; from family and friends, to achievements, future goals and plans, and things you like about yourself. This can be difficult to think of when suicidal thoughts are strong. Try asking others and add these to the section as a reminder of how much others appreciate you and how much you are loved.
You're not alone.
At crisis point, it can be easy to believe that you are alone and that no one else could possibly imagine the way you are feeling, or begin to help you. However, it is important to remember that things can get better with the right support, and it may surprise you to hear that many other people have been through similar experiences.
Take, for example, Tina Turner, who admitted to trying to commit suicide in 1986 in her autobiography, and Ian Thorpe who has s...truggled with depression since his teenage years. Even Mike Tyson has revealed that his substance abuse led to suicidal thoughts. But they are still here today.
So ask yourself, what would Tina Turner do? Keep singing. What would Ian Thorpe do? Keep swimming. What would Mike Tyson do? Keep fighting. So don't give up your battle.
For more celebrities that have attempted suicide, visit: http://www.ranker.com/…/celebrities-who-att…/celebrity-lists
Why do people self-harm?
There may be many answers to this question, but some of the most commonly cited reasons include:
1. To express/ release an emotional build-up....
2. To stop feeling numb/ to feel pain.
3. To feel a sense of control.
4. To communicate distress as a way of seeking help.
However, self-harm can be very dangerous, and some alternative coping strategies have been suggested, relating to the above reasons:
1. Allow yourself to express any built-up emotion; it's okay to cry. Alternatively, use a punch bag for frustration, or try writing down your thoughts and feelings to clear your mind.
2. To feel something when you are feeling numb, try doing something physical (like exercising), or hold something cold or warm and focus on the sensation it brings.
3. To feel like you are in control, create a timetable for the things you have to do, and set reasonable and realistic goals. Reward yourself when you have achieved these.
4. To tell others that you're struggling, try writing a letter so that others are able to understand how you are feeling if you do not yet feel able to talk to them. You could also make a mood chart and have this available for others to see, and use this as a prompt for talking.
These are useful in the short term, but it is important to remember to seek help if these feelings are frequent and recurring. Find a good time to sit down and chat to someone who you trust, or make an appointment to see your GP.
There's always hope. Create a 'Hope Box'.
A 'Hope Box' (also known as a memory box, or self-soothe box), is a place where you can store things that make you happy, that you can go to when you are feeling low or suicidal.
Some ideas of what you can put inside include:...
* Photographs of family, friends, pets, and holiday snaps.
* Stress balls or other things to help with anxiety (e.g: elastic bands).
* Chocolate or sweets (as a pick-me-up).
* Anything creative or personal that you have made.
* A relaxing CD.
* A note pad and pens.
* A letter to your past/ future self.
* A safety plan and emergency numbers if needed.
There really are no limits! Add anything that brings you comfort, and reminds you of things that you have enjoyed, and make it personal.
Did you know...?
The suicide rate among young adults has tripled since the 1950s.
And one in every 12 students has made a suicide note at some point in their lives; that's about 2 people in your seminar group....
For more figures, please see: http://www.collegedegreesearch.net/student-suicides/
What can I do if I am feeling suicidal?
Some things that have been suggested as being helpful to distract yourself from suicidal thoughts include:
* Physical activity - play a sport that you enjoy, go for a walk, build something, try some deep breathing techniques, or muscle relaxation....
* Be creative - express your thoughts and feelings, for example, via painting, drawing, writing poetry/ a story, writing a blog, or playing a musical instrument. Mindfulness colouring books can also be fun.
* Soothing activities - listen to music, take a warm bath, have a hot drink, or go to your 'safe place' (somewhere where you feel comfortable and secure).
* Engage your senses - sometimes our thoughts can be so powerful that they become overbearing, so it is important that we remember to ground ourselves in reality. Focus on your breathing and current surroundings to clear your head; try and identify five things, something that you can hear, something that you can see, something that you can taste, something that you can touch, and something that you can smell, and really engage with the sensation that it brings. Focusing on your senses can help to calm you down.
Different distractions work for different people, so don't be disheartened and don't give up if something doesn't work for you. Keep trying new things until you find something that is useful.
Sometimes it can be hard to detect when someone may be feeling suicidal, especially if it is not openly spoken about.
Here are some warning signs to look out for in friends:
* A stressful life event - this may be a bereavement, study related (particularly around exam time), family problems, relationship issues, etc,which could trigger suicidal thoughts....
* Low mood - especially if occurring frequently and over a long period of time.
* Loss of interest - this can include no longer engaging in activities that they used to enjoy, and a lack of motivation in various areas (work, socialising, engaging in day-to-day routine activities, etc).
* Changes in behaviour - these include giving away possessions, engaging in self-harm or reckless behaviour, and becoming withdrawn and isolated.
* Physical changes - be vigilant for weight loss, sleep disturbances, and lack of self-care (e.g: neglecting their appearance).
* Frequent mood changes - feeling depressed, angry, irritable, lonely, worthless, hopeless, and perhaps even numb.
These may signal a desire for help and be a means of communicating distress to others. Recognising warning signs is an important way of acknowledging that help is needed.
Need someone to talk to? Looking for support? Here are some useful contacts:
* HOPELine UK - 0800 068 41 41
* Samaritans - 116 123
* Nightline - 02476 522 199 or 02476 417 668 - email, IM, and drop-in also available.
See the Nightline Facebook page for more details: https://www.facebook.com/Warwick.Nightline/…
Suicide is the leading cause of death in those aged 15-24, and a common occurrence amongst university students, but unfortunately some individuals are scared to break the silence.
Here are some tips that can help you approach the subject with those you may be concerned about:
* Avoid ambiguity - directly ask the person if they have had any suicidal thoughts or are contemplating the idea. This helps to convey the fact that it is okay to talk about suicide, and is not something... they should feel ashamed about.
* Be there to listen - sometimes, a person may just need someone that they can share their thoughts and feelings with. Be non-judgemental, and reassure them that they are not alone.
* Point them in the right direction - give them advice of where they can go if they are in need of more professional help. This may be a charity or organisation, a counsellor, or another trusted adult.
Talking about suicide is the first step to getting help.
More information can be found at Papyrus - https://www.papyrus-uk.org/