"Men past forty
Get up nights
And look out at city lights,
Wondering where they made the wrong turn
And why life is so long" - L.E. Sissman
If this is you, join us. We're breaking free.
I couldn't be more thankful for these ugly bare spots in my yard. They're the batter's box and home plate on our backyard baseball field. The big tree is second base. And they're evidence of the fun I've had with my four little ones through the years.
Real talk: most men don't need more information, they need to take action. The weekend is here: step away from the screen and do something you know you need to do.
You ever meet anyone who doesn't feel busy? Me either. It's time to reject busy.
Slow your life down. Breathe deep. Think big. Let your world expand beyond your office and your screen. Then go get important things done. And realize that not everything is important.
In the midst of great hardship and loss, my guess is that many men in Texas will feel a satisfaction and contentment that they've never felt before.
The stories and images that we're seeing out of Texas are both devastating and encouraging. The damage and loss is catastrophic, but the joining together of people across dividing lines is beautiful. My prediction is that, despite the tremendous hardship, the sense of purpose and community that results from this crisis will actually improve happiness levels. I don't say that to minimize the terrible losses suffered by so many, but to highlight the profound impact that brotherhood and a sense of purpose have on our mindset. We'd be well-served to embrace those things without being forced to via catastrophe.
Anyone can be an alpha on their own. But it's only when we are connected to other men that we forge and find our place, becoming the men we're meant to be.
The law of the harvest: you always reap later than you sow and greater than you sow. Sow the seeds of the life you want today. If you're consistent, the payoff will come.
Men can handle hardship. In fact, we often thrive on it. What we can't handle is isolation. And that's exactly what modern society promotes. Without strong connections to other men, we suffer.
A man's mission:
build a strong body
love your wife
raise kids who thrive...
connect with other men
Accomplishing this mission in a world that promotes isolation and makes us busier than ever is not for the faint of heart, and many will abandon the mission. Will your story be one of accomplishment or abandonment? The good news: you hold the power to write your story.
"I don't have anything to prove" is a limiting mindset and typically a cop-out based in fear. Don't go there.
The biggest threat to men's health in adulthood? It's not what you think.